Four Months

[TDurden]

So it's been four months since I've talked to Amy and two months since I've gotten any update on how she's doing. Two months ago it was clear she wasn't in any condition to talk and it was suggested that once she was she would be the one to make contact. But I know her well enough to know that she isn't the type of person who usually makes first contact, especially given how long it's been.

So now I'm thinking I might call her up again, see how she's doing. The problem is though that if she's up for talking, even hanging out, I don't know how to address the whole lack of communication thing or if I should bring it up at all. I'm well aware of the reason and I don't have any problem with it so I wouldn't be bringing it up out of frustration.

Instead it's that I still like her and want to date her but I don't feel comfortable bringing that up right out of the gate after so long without speaking. But I also don't want to start from square one again working my way back to the comfort zone where I can ask her out officially without it being awkward.

The best way it would seem then to avoid that scenario would be to try to talk to her about why we haven't spoken in so long. But again it's a sensitive topic and I'm not sure how much she knows that I know.

I'm sorry if this is completely incoherent, I just dont' feel like recapping everything that's happened thus far.

In short, my question is: How, after four months of silence, do I get things back to a point where I can bring up the issue of dating?

[dono]

I still think you need to ditch that female.

[TDurden]

I still think you need to ditch that female.

I don't hop from girl to girl. When I find someone I like I stick with it. Besides, I still haven't told you everything about the situation

[Gigabitch]

Send her a letter. If she doesn't get back to you within a week, call her house. At least you'll know what's going on.

[TDurden]

Send her a letter. If she doesn't get back to you within a week, call her house. At least you'll know what's going on.

A letter? She lives only a couple miles away, I could walk to her house. If you really think so...

[Junket]

I don't hop from girl to girl. When I find someone I like I stick with it.

I'm right with you on that.

[dono]

Yeah, and you're being treated like shit, buddy.

[TDurden]

Yeah, and you're being treated like shit, buddy.

I'm going to assume that was directed at me. Suffice it to say I am not being treated like shit. I won't elaborate but I guarantee I am not.

Now onto more complications. Ran into an ex who's moved back to town...

[Gigabitch]

Please, "dono", show us all how it's done, would you? I just know you've had much better luck with the ladies.

You're cute. You're smart. Unfortunately, you're also mean as a snake and it makes me want to spank you.

Now onto more complications. Ran into an ex who's moved back to town...

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[TDurden]

To make a long story short, having this person back in my life has resulted in me having doubts about continuing to pursue a relationship with Amy. My desire to be with her hasn't diminished, but I find that I don't necessarily have the patience to wait until she's ready.

The temptation to get involved with someone more immediate is strong and I'm still trying to figure out where this leaves me.

[vashti]

I don't know your whole background, but I can't help but wonder why everyone in your age range seems so opposed to casual dating. Why can't you just ask these girls *both* out until you decide one relationship (or neither) is leading somewhere? (I hope that question makes sense.)

[TDurden]

I'm not against casual dating. The circumstances are such that one of the girls would be in a relationship with me now if it weren't for certain roadblocks on her side.

The other one, well, she's not the kind of person that would be jumping for joy at the idea of a casual relationship.

[lamarthe]

I would need more info on "the four month void" but I agree with Ashti. You are
so young if your profile is correct. Let it all come to you. You clearly haven't decided which girl you prefer. Why do you need to rush?

[TDurden]

I appreciate your input, but if you want to actually help then maybe you should look through some of my older threads. In the case of one of the girls we've been going back and forth for over a year now. It's not that I'm in a rush, it's that my patience is dwindling.

[dono]

Please, "dono", show us all how it's done, would you? I just know you've had much better luck with the ladies.

You're cute. You're smart. Unfortunately, you're also mean as a snake and it makes me want to spank you.

Alright, you female. Let me perhaps show you what YOU said:

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Gigabytch, 11/12/2006 10:46:34 PM:
Vashti is sane/ stable. You, Ben and I are all Wacko Magnets.

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Gigabytch, 10/25/2006 3:37:25 PM:
Ben really needs to get rid of her.

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Gigabytch, 10/28/2006 9:57:34 PM:
Why is he still chasing that girl?

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So before you jump on my ass for agreeing with you, make sure you're thinking with your head and not your bleeding uterus.