Relationship getting boring

[lastwish]

ok...this is the weirdest shit ever. Me and him was just chatting and he brought up that I don't know him very well. Which is true. So I told him that its because he doesn't let me. And he said it is just the way he is. He told me how everyone has problems so he doesn't feel like he need to talk about it. He told me how I don't need to know him because he is a loser. I told him I obviously don't think is he. He still refuse to tell me anything about him. Whats up with that?!

[IndiReloaded]

Oh, I strongly disagree. If you have one non-participant, the other can't participate for him.

I agree with this^ (sorry guys).

You can can guide, suggest, cajole, humour, communicate, even manipulate until you are blue in the face & keel over sideways. But you can't make someone else try.

And who wants to be w/someone who can't bother to at least try?

[IndiReloaded]

ok...this is the weirdest shit ever. Me and him was just chatting and he brought up that I don't know him very well. Which is true. So I told him that its because he doesn't let me. And he said it is just the way he is. He told me how everyone has problems so he doesn't feel like he need to talk about it. He told me how I don't need to know him because he is a loser. I told him I obviously don't think is he. He still refuse to tell me anything about him. Whats up with that?!

He's stonewalling you. Decide whether you want to make his issues yours or you want to move on to someone w/better communication skills.

[afterhourz]

let him know how you truly feel, thats all i can say

[Tedel]

or consider keeping this bf and just having sex with other people.

Nah, that's a bad idea. She loves the guy, don't move her to start cheating on him.

[Tedel]

Another suggestion if he still doesn't want to talk. Start finding out his likes and dislikes indirectly. Example:

Go to the movies and try to get tickets for a —say— romantic comedy. If he likes the idea, you'll understand he's a little romantic. If he, on the contrary, says he's in the mood for horror or action, then you can ask why or start deducing he's not very fond of romanticism.

Try similar things for his favorite soda, ice-cream, meals and so on.

That's a way to get to know someone who doesn't like to speak his mind. There are others.

Now, changing the viewpoint of your problem. If you just talk about how your day is like... Isn't that a friendship with hugs and kisses and sex (if any)? Are you sure you have a relationship there?

Just a question for you to think about.

[Gigabitch]

Sad. He should meet you halfway, not make you chase him around.

[Riyko]

It sounds like you need to tell him exactly how it makes you feel by him not opening up to you.

If he's really not willing to open up to you then the two of you really need to reconsider your relationship.