Originally Posted by
ArBR82
I feel the same way, friend. It's been 4 months, and i'm still messed up. We were together for a little under 5 years. I can't look at other women without thinking about her, but i've told myself that I just have to force myself to try and forget about her. I haven't been to a therapist yet, but i'm thinking that if I don't get better soon I'll probably have to. Whatever you do, don't resort to alchohol or drugs... that just makes it worse... or at least in my case it did.
Keep your chin up.
You don't need to forget about the person, you just need to find ways to resolve your feelings and move on. They were a part of your life for years, it's normal to feel screwed up and unhappy that a big part of your life is now missing. You rebuild, you go on. You have to do it for yourself, and your own happiness. Not for revenge, or anything. Just yourself, to be happy in your own life.
"Well, then," the Cat went on, "you see a dog growls when it's angry, and wags its tail when it's pleased. Now I growl when I'm pleased, and wag my tail when I'm angry. Therefore I'm mad."