those are all valid points, the problem is, of objectively responsible adult; but what if somebody feel oneself like adult but does not have an idea to do research before doing it; let call such person subjective adult?
This problem reminds me of driving learning process. It is a known statistics that most of accidents with new drivers happen between several months and about 1-1.5 years after starting driving on his(her) own. The explanation is this is a critical period when driver gains confidence in one's abilities behind a wheel but actual skills are far from perfect.
The way to counteract this effect is to tell person of it's existence; explain the mechanism, and, sometimes, it works; such as; while driver starts to built confidence (nothing wrong with that), it is also important to use some self-criticism to evaluate capabilities and limitations and act accordingly.
That's me in the corner
That's me in the spotlight
Losing my Virginity
Trying to keep up with you
And I don't know if I can do it
Oh no I've said too much
I haven't said enough
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
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That was pretty much my point... children lack the ability to make informed decisions about something like sex... they are far too subjective... can barely grasp long term concepts... let alone life-long consequences. If a 15 year old is curious about sex and poorly informed... then it's up to the parents to inform the child of the purpose of sex, the consequences, and why it is so tempting. They should be providing the child with an outlet in which they can inquire about sex... It is curiosity that is the driving force --- not love, not lust... but curiosity of something that is 'forbidden.' If you can keep the curiosity mostly satiated for a few years... then their childhood remains unblemished.. and they grow into more informed adults when it comes to sex.
"The weakest soul, knowing its own weakness, and believing this truth that strength can only be developed by effort and practice, will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, and, adding effort to effort, patience to patience, and strength to strength, will never cease to develop, and will at last grow divinely strong."
- James Allen
ummm guys. i think you all have a point but i think Covet poofed already. she hasn't posted since feb 23. i hope we got throw to her. she really is to young. and the fact that she had to ask in the first place just proves that she's not ready
Why won't this thread die?
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Uhm, just because you hit puberty early doesn't mean you've reached your sexual peak early. They're two completely different things.
And if she's looking for boys to screw at that age, she probably has family problems and is desperately seeking attention/love from anyplace she thinks she can get it.
"Well, then," the Cat went on, "you see a dog growls when it's angry, and wags its tail when it's pleased. Now I growl when I'm pleased, and wag my tail when I'm angry. Therefore I'm mad."
hey Lite, sure they are! The conversation was thought about Vashti statement that I found questionable "Males reach their sexual peak a LONG time before females do, and it is possible (and even likely) that he is ready for sex and you are not."
So, on one end, Vashti is saying that age of peak of sexuality IS LIKELY to determine the age or readiness for sex; on the other she agreed with Lite that "they are completely different things"
So, Vashti, please make your mind: if "Males reach their sexual peak a LONG time before females do" , does it mean that "he is ready for sex and you are not"?
I'm sorry, but I really don't understand why you are having problems comprehending what I wrote. It was crystal-clear, so far as I can tell. Females develop secondary sex characteristics earlier than males, but their sexual peak occurs in their 30s. By sexual peak, I mean maximum sex drive. Males have their peak in the late teens/early 20s. If you pair a boy that is 19 with a girl that is 17, you will see that he is a LOT more interested in sex, while her interest is more often in keeping the boy happy.
Sex drive is determined by testosterone levels in the body, and that is why women have a higher interest in sex in their 30s. that is when their testosterone levels are peaking. Males have a lot of testosterone very early because it helps them develop into men, but once they reach manhood, the amount of testosterone they produce steadily declines, as does their interest in sex.
This is not to say there is no interest in sex when a person is outside these ages for sexual peaks, but they aren't of the same intensity.
Last edited by vashti; 07-04-09 at 11:06 PM.