Hi,
First time poster here, feels kinda silly doing this but i would like some advice on my situation.
I have known my 19 year old GF for about 9 months. We are together for about 6 months now. Ever since i met her she has always been the most affectionate and clingy girl ever. Always wanting to cuddle, hug, make out, snog, etc. And telling me "i love you" a couple times an hour. Really cute and i enjoyed it since i have always lacked affection in my life before her. And the feeling of a girl always wanting to show how much she loves me really melts my heart and makes me feel safe.
Since we started dating and become sexually active she also turned out to be sexually extremely active. Pretty much having sex or making love every day we could have it.
The past week i have needed her affection more because i was nervous about a university graduation presentation that i have in a few days. It caused me to be more clingy.
Her affection seemed to slow down a bit at the same time i became a bit more clingy to try to stimulate her into giving me a little more back. It didnt seem to work as she started to only give affection in response to me, not out of her own doing. She also had no interest in sex. I talked to her about it after a few days and she said she also noticed her decline in active affection and dissapearing sexdrive. She added has had a very active sexdrive since she was in her early teens.
That talk also made her reveal a small hint that she was a bit overpowered by my clinginess. So i stopped and only give her affection as much as i always have given, hoping she would spring back up. A few hours after the talk, and me 'backing off' she did start to cuddle with me again and seemed her usual self. But the following day she again seemed a bit distant, distracted and not talking to me as much or giving as much affection as she used to. Which is kind of ironic because if i were to do that to her she would likely feel sad and a bit neglected.
Last night i asked her if something changed this week and if she was still happy. She almost seemed insulted by the question and told me "yes, something has changed." after a little pause that seemed like an eternity she said: "i love you more then last week".
In short:
- I gave her more affection while at the same time she gave me less.
- Her usually very active sexdrive seems gone.
- She seems a bit distant and not as interested in me as she used to be.
- This change seemed to happen rather suddenly.
Anyone know what could be wrong? Or is it all in my head and i just need to relax and stop worrying?
(EDIT: maybe i should add that im 25, and that this is my first serious relationship. So i have no idea if these things 'just happen' and if it will blow over.)