Broke up with my bf

[singleagain]

Hi,

So basically to keep a long story short, I broke up with my bf 1.5 months ago and to this date I have not managed to get over him. I think about him a lot of the time, small petty things remind me of him (i.e. seeing someone wearing a scarf similar to the one he had etc). We went out for 3 months, and at the end of our relationship he lost interest in me... probably it was because we always had sooo many doubts about each other... we were just really different people, with completely different life choices etc. So I knew all the way as well that he was not the one for me and I was not going to stay with him for ever. However, once we broke up (which he initiated), I got completely obsessed and "dependent" on him. The old saying "treat em mean, keep em keen" because so true. And to this date I think about him a lot, every day. He was a "bad boy", but there was something very special about him, I really felt connected with him and so did he with me. Anyway, what i find the hardest is to completely cut the cord (i.e. remove him as a friend on facebook), cos Im just afraid that I might lose him for ever. We agreed to stay friends, but atm, staying friends is really not working for me, cos I still have feelings for him (or to put it an other way, Im still obsessed with him a bit). Any suggestions how to make it easier for me, would be great. Cheers! xxx

[CRAZYCHICK1984]

I Know u dont want to do it, but delete him of Facebook, Delete his Numbers, Do not contact Him.

I was with a guy for 2.5 years, 14 Months on i still think of him everyday

It will get easier, and as everyone has said to be if its meant to b he will find his way back to you.

Try and go out have as much much as u can, get hobbies, in time it will fade x

[vicky]

I Know u dont want to do it, but delete him of Facebook, Delete his Numbers, Do not contact Him.

I was with a guy for 2.5 years, 14 Months on i still think of him everyday

It will get easier, and as everyone has said to be if its meant to b he will find his way back to you.

Try and go out have as much much as u can, get hobbies, in time it will fade x

listen to her.

[rose36]

Think about what is best for your self esteem. Holding on to someone who doesn't want you or being with someone that does want you. I suspect that your motivations for holding on has very little to with your ex but more to do with it bringing up the past. You might write a list of all of the reasons he isn't good for you: 1. he doesn't love you. 2. ...
meanwhile do what has been suggested by others here.

[EricaConnella]

At this point, you have 2 options:
- forget him COMPLETELY and move on
- or fight to get him back in your life and make your relationship work this time.

To me, it seems you are stuck between the two options, you don't know what you wanna do yourself.

You have to sit down and analyze the situations, what he meant to you, what you liked about him, what you disliked about him. Then you will know, if he is worth getting back with or not.

[bamboocraft]

I'm in the same boat as you in that I'm trying to act just like friends with my bf. It is so hard for me as I really want to smile and have fun with him yet my heart is actually break inside because i haven't let go of him completely, yet. I suggest you go out with friends more often and maybe join a club or two, try to rely on him less, you don't have to do it all abrutply but maybe gradually. Once you establish life outside of him maybe it'll be easier to not think about him? Just my two cents as that's how im handling my situation right now. cheers

[carl1222]

What do you mean when you say "He was a 'bad boy'?"

[therunningman86]

Hi guys,

when my girlfriend broke up with me I decided the best cause of action (after it was apparent there was no way back) was to completely cut ties.

At that phase in her life (she was 19) she wanted to have fun. It wasnt the fact that she didnt love me, she did. So perhaps one day she will realise what she had and come back. who knows, the door is always open.

To the person who created this thread. You should do what your heart tells you, perhaps give it abit more time, try and move on and be with someone else to see if you still have feelings for him etc.