I can't get ****ing over her!! :'(

[RecY17]

Hi.

I'm 17 - becoming 18 in a few months.

Well if anyone wants to hear my story, here goes.

I have never been a "lady-man" really. I have never had a serious relationship or had a girlfriend.

But suddenly, out of nowhere in november 2008 a friend of mine, well, not really a friend back then, but I knew who she was and she knew me since we live very close and have gone to the same school for 9 years. Well, anyway, I heard from a friend of mine that she liked me really much and I was like "Yeah right" she's waaay out of my lead. She is this beautiful, popular, shy, emotional girl. The best girl in the world, really.

Well, I fell so hard in love after our first kiss that I couldn't even count to four if I had to. I'm not kidding. She's the love of my life and everything was going so ****ing great, we were fooling around a lot, had fun and my life was so great and I thought: finally it has happened for me too.

But in this time she had been foolin around with another guy too, and I knew about it, but we weren't exclusive so I thought I shouldn't say anything, but it was tearing me up inside everytime I knew she was with this guy..I can still feel the pain in my hand after everytime I punched the wall in anger.

But when I was with her everything was so great again.. but then suddenly she and that other guy got together. And oh my ****ing god I have never been so sad in my life. I think I cried for 2 weeks without stopping, my life was over.

This beautiful girl that I thought was gonna be mine was gone, sure, I'm one experience smarter, but even now I can't let this go.

I'm now best friend with her, but I still thinking what could have been.. everytime I'm with her I want to grab her, kiss her and be with her..

The worst part is that I never got the whole story why things turned out the way they did.. I've heard she told someone she sometimes didn't like my personality, but I don't know..

And my feelings for this girl is coming back so fast now everytime I'm with her and see her and I don't ****ing know what to do! I'm so in love with her, but I know that this will probably never happen..

I want to go back in time and kill whatever in me that made those feelings.

Anyone has any good advice about what I should do?

[Juristhea]

Hi.

I'm 17 - becoming 18 in a few months.

Well if anyone wants to hear my story, here goes.

I have never been a "lady-man" really. I have never had a serious relationship or had a girlfriend.

But suddenly, out of nowhere in november 2008 a friend of mine, well, not really a friend back then, but I knew who she was and she knew me since we live very close and have gone to the same school for 9 years. Well, anyway, I heard from a friend of mine that she liked me really much and I was like "Yeah right" she's waaay out of my lead. She is this beautiful, popular, shy, emotional girl. The best girl in the world, really.

Well, I fell so hard in love after our first kiss that I couldn't even count to four if I had to. I'm not kidding. She's the love of my life and everything was going so ****ing great, we were fooling around a lot, had fun and my life was so great and I thought: finally it has happened for me too.

But in this time she had been foolin around with another guy too, and I knew about it, but we weren't exclusive so I thought I shouldn't say anything, but it was tearing me up inside everytime I knew she was with this guy..I can still feel the pain in my hand after everytime I punched the wall in anger.

But when I was with her everything was so great again.. but then suddenly she and that other guy got together. And oh my ****ing god I have never been so sad in my life. I think I cried for 2 weeks without stopping, my life was over.

This beautiful girl that I thought was gonna be mine was gone, sure, I'm one experience smarter, but even now I can't let this go.

I'm now best friend with her, but I still thinking what could have been.. everytime I'm with her I want to grab her, kiss her and be with her..

The worst part is that I never got the whole story why things turned out the way they did.. I've heard she told someone she sometimes didn't like my personality, but I don't know..

And my feelings for this girl is coming back so fast now everytime I'm with her and see her and I don't ****ing know what to do! I'm so in love with her, but I know that this will probably never happen..

I want to go back in time and kill whatever in me that made those feelings.

Anyone has any good advice about what I should do?

Her actions alone dictate where the relationship is going and what she wants in it. She cant convey into words what she wants in a relationships hence the certain flirtings with someone else.

You on the other hand value an exclusive relationship, with all the happy endings in it.

You are not meant to be together. I am a college teacher and I get the same stories almost everyday and I share the same piece of advice to my students what I am about to share to you:

There are so many people in the world, around 6 billion, and one of them's bound to be your partner. You see, relationships are built on trial and error, you take this path, you take that path and sooner or later, you know where you want to go until such time you get to that place. Don't go crying over spilled milk, there's still some available at the groceries. It's the same concept when looking for your partner. Just because one relationship failed doesnt mean your future relationships will.

Keep your chin up and move on. People who never value what they had in the first place often have the biggest regrets.

[Lite]

Yeah, stop talking to her and get some distance from your pain. You're not going to get her back. She tried you and found you wanting. She'd rather **** someone else.

Move on with your life, and while she may be your "best friend" she doesn't have your best interests at heart right now. You need to take care of yourself, and find other places to put that energy.

Otherwise you're just the guy on the back burner in case the current relationship fails. You're second best. Would you really date someone if you're their second choice?

[RecY17]

Her actions alone dictate where the relationship is going and what she wants in it. She cant convey into words what she wants in a relationships hence the certain flirtings with someone else.

You on the other hand value an exclusive relationship, with all the happy endings in it.

You are not meant to be together. I am a college teacher and I get the same stories almost everyday and I share the same piece of advice to my students what I am about to share to you:

There are so many people in the world, around 6 billion, and one of them's bound to be your partner. You see, relationships are built on trial and error, you take this path, you take that path and sooner or later, you know where you want to go until such time you get to that place. Don't go crying over spilled milk, there's still some available at the groceries. It's the same concept when looking for your partner. Just because one relationship failed doesnt mean your future relationships will.

Keep your chin up and move on. People who never value what they had in the first place often have the biggest regrets.

Yeah, stop talking to her and get some distance from your pain. You're not going to get her back. She tried you and found you wanting. She'd rather **** someone else.

Move on with your life, and while she may be your "best friend" she doesn't have your best interests at heart right now. You need to take care of yourself, and find other places to put that energy.

Otherwise you're just the guy on the back burner in case the current relationship fails. You're second best. Would you really date someone if you're their second choice?

Thank you so much! You really helped to sort things out..
That last thing I never even thought about, and I really don't want to be with her when I always will know that I was the second choice. That I wasn't good enough.

[RecY17]

Her actions alone dictate where the relationship is going and what she wants in it. She cant convey into words what she wants in a relationships hence the certain flirtings with someone else.

You on the other hand value an exclusive relationship, with all the happy endings in it.

You are not meant to be together. I am a college teacher and I get the same stories almost everyday and I share the same piece of advice to my students what I am about to share to you:

There are so many people in the world, around 6 billion, and one of them's bound to be your partner. You see, relationships are built on trial and error, you take this path, you take that path and sooner or later, you know where you want to go until such time you get to that place. Don't go crying over spilled milk, there's still some available at the groceries. It's the same concept when looking for your partner. Just because one relationship failed doesnt mean your future relationships will.

Keep your chin up and move on. People who never value what they had in the first place often have the biggest regrets.

Yeah, stop talking to her and get some distance from your pain. You're not going to get her back. She tried you and found you wanting. She'd rather **** someone else.

Move on with your life, and while she may be your "best friend" she doesn't have your best interests at heart right now. You need to take care of yourself, and find other places to put that energy.

Otherwise you're just the guy on the back burner in case the current relationship fails. You're second best. Would you really date someone if you're their second choice?

Juristhea: Thank you so much! You really helped to sort things out and I guess you're right, it wasn't meant to be and we don't fit together even how much I want us to..



Lite: Thank you too! That last thing I never even thought about, and I really don't want to be with her when I always will know that I was the second choice. That I wasn't good enough.

[kyomakrm]

yes, im in the same boat too, i was not good enough - well ONLY in her eyes and her family , and you surely will meet others that will say you are good enough......all the best.....im trying hard to move forward too and i believe in it.

[quaziloko]

your young dude its okay to miss her. I feel a lump in my throat when I think about my ex. one day Im living a dream next day I cant even put my arm around her. it sucks but time is the only healer. youll be ok just gotta see theres more to life than one girl as hard as it may be.