Hi all,
I've a problem of sorts and I would greatly appreciate some advice. It's going to be a long story though, so my apologies in advance.
I have this awesome best friend, who just so happens to be a guy. We've known eachother for ages, ever since high school, and we are both studying at (different) universities now. We don't live close but we visit eachother a lot, almost every week.
When we first met, we were both in a relationship, so we have never been anything else than friends and have, for as far as I know, never viewed eachother in any other way but 'just friends'. We have grown very close over the years, but always in a 'just friends' sense.
I haven't been in a relationship for more than one and a half year and he has been single for about a year now. I date occasionally and have had a fling with some guy a few months ago, but nothing seriously. He is currently dating some girl, but says it's nothing serious.
We often do stuff together, like going to the cinema, going on little trips etc, go mountainbiking (a shared hobby). No big deal, just a best friend thing I guess, eventhough everyone else we know thinks we're in a relationship because we are so close.
But lately, it seems things have changed. We have always been hugging etcetera, the 'hold tight and rock back and forth' friend hug and when we walk across town, he usually offers me his arm, because he's a real gentleman (one of the few left I guess).
But somehow, it seems we have become much closer on a physical level as well. When we watch a movie and sit on the couch together, we often lean against one another or pet one another.
We recently spend a weekend together and he stayed over at my place. We watched stupid old monstermovies and drank tequila. At one point, we lost interest in the movie and started to have this profound, philosophical talk about relationships, sex and attraction instead. Might have been the tequila. We even talked - but only in theory, meant as a joke - what would happen if we were involved. The stranger thing, however, is that we fell asleep on the couch, in eachother's earms. Again, could have been the tequila.
When I woke up the following morning, he'd apparently been up for a while, because he had made me breakfast and he had changed his clothes. When I woke up, he was sitting next to me, stroking my hair, which was slightly awkward and he looked almost guilty when I woke up, immediately withdrawing his hand and talking about breakfast instead of commenting on the situation. I didn't say anything either. The rest of the day was normal and not awkward.
I don't know what to think of this. He always maintained that he finds me extremely pretty, but that I am not his type. All his friends have told me in the past that I am definitely not his type. Also, we have always said that we would be just friends, that we are fine the way we are. Yet these signals confuse me. Is this a normal way to behave towards someone whom you just see as a friend?
I do not feel comfortable confronting him about it, because it could mess our friendship up. Also, I'm not sure how I would feel about it if he was interested. He is totally not my type, but he is the sweetest guy I know and sometimes, I find myself thinking that he would be a great, reliable guy to be in a relationship with.
Halp?