I do not have a fiance. You'd have to read the whole thread.
I do not have a fiance. You'd have to read the whole thread.
Well, was it a BFD or not?
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
Not sure what BFD is.
Was it the big [fill in the blank] deal that everyone made it out to be?
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
^ Not in the least.
Drank some beer, talked, laughed, went home.
I only wonder why was she trying to defend this guy so badly.. no offence meant..
G68 from what I have read so far, here is my reply. Take it as you like:
1. No one here knows the scope of your relationship with your boyfriend. If the two of you have discussed in detail and at length the fact that it's ok to hide information from each other that could have a potential negative impact on your relationship, all the more power to you. If that is the case, then it's ok not to tell him you're going out for "beer" with another man.
2. Like it or not, all men are out for one thing. We never deny it. This guy's ultimate goal is to put his penis in your vagina. We don't take women out for beer if there is a slight chance penis won't meet vagina. Again, if this is an acceptable endpoint and you and your boyfriend have discussed this as ok, your set. Head out for beer. If somewhere in the future "beer" ends up with the penis/vagina thing, you and your boyfriend are ok.
3. Don't listen to anyone here, SERIOUSLY! You've already made your mind up. You're going to do it. You and your boyfriend already have established rules and guidelines. You've already indicated what your boyfriend's response will be if he found out. You don't need our permission. Your relationship sounds strong. It sounds like it is built for keeping things from one another from time to time and for the possibility of feelings and emotions derailing in another direction, which will have no impact on your relationship with your boyfriend. You have the relationship all dudes aspire to achieve in their lives.
Good luck!
Last edited by Seradin DaCuir; 15-10-09 at 02:21 PM.
A lot of sarcasm in the above post lol
I wonder how beer ended up as "beer" when in fact it was just beer. Like you know the draft stuff that makes you burp- beer.
No sarcasm intended. Sometimes truth, honesty, and ownership of one's actions seems "silly" when spoken out loud. One of the biggest challenges and one of the cornerstones in any relationship will always be communication. If both parties (gf and bf) have already "communicated" their feelings, then these things won't seem so "sarcastic" when said out loud.
Holy cow. She already went guys. Strangely, I missed the big announcement on the 6pm news.
Anyway, I thought you did tell your BF, Girl.
I only see this as a problem if this is a repeat thing. Wasn't the point that you couldn't cleanly extract yourself after you found out it was just gonna be him?
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh