don't want to be just friends

[kingvince]

I have just broke up with my girl for shortly less than 2 week... but we still do abit of texting to each other.. and it was rather obvious to her that i am still interested in reconciliating....

But while she knows that.. she was still friendly.. even more friendly than we were together... and i just have this feeling she wants to be just friends.... something i am not prepared to do... the thing is we just broke up... i only want a reconciliation...

She was very apologetic about our splitting.. but felt it was the best for me... so Is she really just trying to be friendly, wants to be frens only? and how should i avoid showing her that i will be ok with a platonic relationship if she really is...

[Primo]

Vince, if you can handle seeing her new boyfriend, who may turn out to be much better looking than you, knowing when you see her (or her and him together) that he's fuc*ing her 2-3x per night until she's raw and swollen and can't cum anymore then I would suggest to try the 'friends' route.

If that kinda bothers you, I'd suggest to forget the friendship, let her go and try to find a new relationship for yourself.

[Gigabitch]

You can't be friends with your ex.

[damn2008]

You can be acquaintances with your ex though! Just don't see or hang out with them!

[Primo]

I agree with damn2008. I have had an ex I've remained business friendly with when one of us needs something, but we never talk unless one of us needs something business wise and it's just a friendly hey howya doin'.

[kingvince]

Well Primo's kinda of crude and rude but its quite a point.. I wouldn't be able to stand imagining that for a sec...

but should i let her know even clearly that i am only interested in reconciliating?

[Primo]

Vince, I was using those words for a reason. So you can feel the shock value now, 'not' when you're trying to be friends and your ex shows up at a function or social gathering with some big, good looking guy draped all over her and you're raging with jealousy.

Yes, clearly state your feelings. Let her know that you still love her and would like to try and get back together and make it work. But tell her only once. No endless calling, texting, emailing etc...you will only push her away if you come across weak and needy.

[kingvince]

yup... thats a good point....

I think she knows that i'm always interested in reconciliating already... she knows me well.. she understood that i dun wan to be just frens with her...

Right now we are just like in the very begining... showing care and concern.. occasionally texting each other.. asking about each other.... but i'm stopping at meeting up together with others along....

think im doing the right thing??

[kingvince]

and on a more serious note....

she had ask me twice to go down the workplace to visit her...
though i wish to see her but i dun wan to be there like a "fren"....

so is turing down the invitation good??

[Primo]

Ask her out on a date instead of visiting the workplace, it's more intimate and one on one. Or tell her you're busy, but will meet after work for dinner or coffee, something like that. Stick with one on one things while you're broken up.

[kingvince]

me and my ex have been texting each other quite constantly.. as she was sick and i also had some injuries.... so we ask about each other and to show concern... knowing she was sick i even took the trouble brought her food which i left at her workplace.. she was appreciative and becoming more friendly....

just recently i realise that she has been loggin in to my facebook account to help me play my game secretly.... i did not ask her well but told her i was happy about it....

Does it means she misses me??

[kingvince]

just to add.. we play the game often together just before we broke up.. but she never did help me play before.. when we broke up i stop playing the game until i realise she was helping me cont all along... she also played her own acc and playing my acc does not help her acc in anyway.....