Should I date her regarding the difference in Education?!

[Lipp]

The main problem I would have with being with someone with a little education and few work prospects is that, if getting married, I'd want both my partner and I to be working, and not a housewife.

[doppelgaenger]

Dude, if you're that desperate, you might as well date at the workplace, eh?

[bluesummer]

I'm of mixed minds about this.

On one hand, judging someone for their profession (if you want to call it that) is a little harsh, and not always an indicator of their intelligence. Maybe she wants to go to school and better herself and just can't afford it?

However, you need to get down to the nitty-gritty. If she's an intelligent person working at McD's and can't afford uni, that's one thing. If she has no ambition beyond McD's or isn't on at least somewhat equal level of intelligence, it may not be worth it. It shifts the power in a relationship (often) when one person is more intelligent or accomplished or ambitious than another. I choose to date educated men with good jobs because we have something in common. I've dated less educated men with bad jobs and it was like having a conversation with a block of wood.

[Coca]

thanks for all replies, I really find many good points on them!

In my mind I know that she is not the right one, but maybe I am desperate to a funny and pretty personal or maybe she is playing her cards right!

she showed interest and then she backed off!

I think for that reason I am attracted to her, because we all like the thing that is difficult to have!

[kai]

If she's intelligent but not able to afford to go to uni or has some other career interests, then it's cool. If she's dumb and can't have a proper conversation with you without thinking "wtf is he talking about", then I think you should look somewhere else.

[tufty]

i dont have a phd - i have only have specialist vocational qualifications, call me an idiot if u will

i would be more worried about if SHE though u were interesting or not, not if she is interesting enough for you. In my opinion when people take their credentials too seriously they themselves become to serious - which just makes me yawnnnnnnnnnnn

And another thing, i had a friend at school that left at 16 and started working at mcdonalds - she now owns maccyds franchises in the netherlands ffs.

A degree is just a way of showing u can hang around school studying one topic for 3/4 years and write a brain-deadening dissertation on it. Aint rocket science is it??

I much prefer someone who has applied themselves in other areas with other interests and accomplishments then keeping their nose stuck in a book for forever.

but hey thats just me - no disrespect meant

[Hillbilly]

ask yourself a question...would it bother you to introduce her to your circle of friends?

[all alone]

Yeah i definitely agree that her profession does not equal education level. Hell I am sure we have all professionals, politicians, etc with graduate degrees look bad. Fact is people with graduate degrees are specialists or very knowledgeable in their respective fields. They could have a PhD in Religious Philosophy and critical theory, and have published three books, yet have a hard time doing high school math (that would be my father). Everyone is human, w strengths and weakness, degrees or not.

That being said, I find it annoying when ppl are very slow witted or arn't the sharpest knife in the drawer. I can be friends with them etc and i know people like that i love hanging around, I meant that strictly from a dating perspective.

Also worth noting, I know a guy whose 27 and works at Mickey d's, he has a university degree (not sure what his major is), he could have gotten a decent job at a major phone company but he has managed to move his way up as a manager and what not to the point where he is making more cash there then at this phone company. He's buying himself a condo this year as well.

[IndiReloaded]

This OP seems like a troll to me. PhD Engineering is very unusual and his typing is horrible for that much education.

Peter Pry I believe, especially if he starts posting about emission spectra and stuff. The OP, not so much.

Anyway, if you are for real then my apologies and what Giga said. You are posting here, so its an issue.

[Peter Pry]

Peter Pry I believe, especially if he starts posting about emission spectra and stuff. The OP, not so much.

Huh. Never thought of measuring its spectrum. I know a girl who might be interested in that idea....

[TheWizard]

I read about half way through the thread but I came to the conclusion that the Original Poster probably has a caste system set up in his head and thus it's an issue for him. In terms of social standing and stereotypes etc etc.

If you're not comfortable with it and you've established it's not just a part time thing for her move on - don't waste your time and don't waste hers. Oh, and grow up a little bit, everyone is a person - and they're comprised of more than what they do to adhere to societies rules and capitalism to stay alive within it.

[IndiReloaded]

Huh. Never thought of measuring its spectrum.

Remember, spectrum rhymes with.... fits with what PhD *really* stands for.