Hi everyone,
So recently my gf has been having a hard time with sex. She can start off really in the mood, and be really into it... but then lose the mood amazingly quickly. Last night she had a small itch for a few second on her neck... we were all hot and bothered and then she mentioned this and couldn't regain her spirit (and trust me I've tried). Often she worries that she won't get wet. This isn't a physical problem... she can get quite wet, but her worrying about not getting wet causes her enough stress to not get wet (I hope that wasn't confusing). She also has a hard time when I'm focusing on her with her not reciprocating at the same time... she says she might be shy about being the center of attention (but also says I'm the one person in the world that she's totally comfortable with)... she has a hard time letting herself go to just enjoy sex. When she does, we have great sex, but it's not that often.
We talked about this stuff last night... she doesn't masturbate often. Almost never. A few times a year is all... she says she doesn't because it makes her feel weird, as she thinks it's mechanical. And thus, she doesn't think about sex much either. She can go a couple days without thinking about it once.
Through all this, I know she loves me and it attracted to me... she says it's something with herself that she needs to fix (and she's right). I really want to help her. I suggested she try using toys when she's masturbating, that we try more things in the bedroom... but to do that she has to be able to let go.
any advice I can give her?