Its been almost a year since I was seeing this girl. Well, long story short I met her through my job, and later on we start hanging out, about three months afterward I took her out on a date, bought her flowers, and she said, "You are different than the guys before, but I want us to keep hanging out as friends and see..."
I did that, and a few more months later I asked if we are going to be together (I know, now I realize never to ask for relationship...), and her response is:
"You are nice, the best at everything, but we both have so much going on right now. A relationship doesn't mean we will be happy, we are perfect the way we are now. No pressure, we don't have to argue, we are free to do what we want. Why do you want to mess it up? Yes, I thought about having a relationship with you, but I want to just let things flow, and see where it takes us. What meant to happen will happen."
Well, at the time, I took this response as that:
She is either interest in going out with someone else or holding out for someone better. Either way, I'm the back up. I have done that and been burn before so I basically stop talking to her since.
Now that I think back to it, she must have been interest in me in the beginning. But I lack confidence, the entire time I was with her I shown her how low my self-esteem was and explained to her how much I was haunted by girl before. I was always available for her whenever she needed something.
Perhaps I was being a loser and she sensed it? And it led to the ultimate result of she losing her interest in me, but knowing that I was nice to her, she wanted to keep me around her?
What do you all think?