Was I Oblivious, or right?

[the_robot]

I've just been for an hour trapped between the sheets of my bed thinking, and new doubts have appeared... about my past.

The thing is, I was thinking that no girl has shown any interest for me, and then the thought that I may be wrong struck me. Maybe they have, but I didn't consider it being any sign of interest, or I considered it just like they wanted to be friends...

Like for instance, there was a girl who would always be "petty" with me, she was always using me as a couch (resting on me and stuff like that), she touched my hands very often (I thought she was just freaky). She did weird stuff, like me being lying down after swimming, she'd step on my abs and stand there... I just looked at her like "Wtf are you doing?" and she smiled.. weird girl, but I thought she just wanted to be friends.

Another different case, I was in the Metro (subway) standing against a wall, and a girl was walking from the wagon in one side to the wagon in the opposite side of the transport, and she started looking at me from the distance (I saw her), and didn't stop looking at me, when we were like 5 feet from each other, she hit one of those vertical bars in the Metro, and she almost fell. That's when she stopped looking me, started looking down and speed up the pace. I just thought this girl was weird...

Next story, was a girl I met with my (mostly male) friends when we went with another group that was all females... and being the 2 groups together, this girl would ask me to go home with her and go with her to walk the dog. At the time I just thought she didn't want to go alone, but thinking of it now, it would make more sense if she'd ask one of her friends and not someone she barely knew... although maybe she just didn't trust her friends being drunk to be a good company.

Another one I have in mind is this weird girl who I went to an academy after highschool with, and even though she lived like 100 feet from there, she always wanted me to walk her home... it's not like she could get in trouble in such a short distance in a place full of people. At the time I just thought she was friendly.

So... Am I thinking too much into it and I was right back then, or anyone else can see anything weird?

[BubbleFreak]

I tooootally can relate to some of that behaviour, then again I am a complete weirdo at times also! Hahaha!

First year of uni I had this big crush on some guy but I was silly and shy at the time and way younger/immature than most, and thought I'd just keep bumping into him or "accidentally" touching him and hinting that I liked him and sitting next to him instead of telling him directly. Obviously, he was oblivious to the message i was trying to convey, and eventually I got bored of it and found someone else to act silly towards So yes, I can totally see how a weird girl doing weird things like taht could've meant she liked you!

Then again, not everyone is a weirdo and maybe it was just a coincidence. Hey if a girl acts like taht around you again, why don't you test it out and see?

[Rich]

Seriously?
If your not with someone already go over and make a move if you see a girl do that kind of stuff man! In my books thats a big ass sign of interest lol

[the_robot]

I realize these things years/months after they happen... I have to learn to catch them when they happen and make a move.

In my books thats a big ass sign of interest lol

I think a huge sign of interest for me would be if they raped me or something like that...

[lahnnabell]

HAHAHAHA. You are so oblivious it's almost adorable. For me, I only touch a guy or allow him to touch me when I am clearly interested in him otherwise I keep my distance. This is quite some flirty behavior these girls have exhibited towards you (i.e. smiling at you, touching your hands, inviting you places, walking into poles)

Imagine what's gonna happen when you start proactively flirting with girls. You should get on that!

[Aeradalia]

Welcome to "Signs of Interest 101" for men... yep, they liked you. Try to pay more attention to your female friends when they have a crush on other men. Make note of how they go about it. They could very well teach you how women flirt with men they like.

[the_robot]

I only touch a guy or allow him to touch me when I am clearly interested in him otherwise I keep my distance. This is quite some flirty behavior these girls have exhibited towards you (i.e. smiling at you, touching your hands, inviting you places, walking into poles)

Imagine what's gonna happen when you start proactively flirting with girls. You should get on that!

Letting them touch you counts too? I've had some female friends asking me for massages very often, even the first one I mentioned there... it seems I was good at it.

I guess I should start proactively flirting with girls and see if they do weird stuff too.

[the_robot]

Welcome to "Signs of Interest 101" for men... yep, they liked you. Try to pay more attention to your female friends when they have a crush on other men. Make note of how they go about it. They could very well teach you how women flirt with men they like.

I lost contact with all my female friends, so doing that is going to be hard... Females should make it more obvious, like... I don't know, saying it or something

[lahnnabell]

First and foremost, get it out of your head that this is "weird" behavior. It's not. Start seeing it as flirting. If you see it as weird, then you're gonna be weird about it, and then that'll just make everything awkward and weird. Takes practice though

I can see you "girl watching". "Ah, the vibrant red-head! See how she when she shakes her mane, the sun bounces brilliantly off the strands! Ah, it seems she is thoroughly enjoying a lollipop whilst making eye contact with a potential mate! This could be good!"

[starbuck]

If a woman is not interested in a guy we often avoid getting "touchy-feely".

A girl asking for a massage is a definite flirting tactic. Robot, these poor girls are probably so frustrated they're not getting anywhere with you lol.

[Gigabitch]

Dude. Are you effing blind? You could have had three girlfriends by now, you silly thing.

[Asip4u]

This is one part that bothers me the most. So many times women give these signals and after you make your move there's the.."Oh i'm sorry i didn't mean it like that, i was just being friendly." Sorry guys, but if you want a girl you'll have to make things happen. A lot of the guys have this thing where they make everything seem bigger then it really is. What you'll have to do is ask out many girls...because only then you'll become fearless. Guys who have no fear of rejection get the most girls.

[Aeradalia]

I lost contact with all my female friends, so doing that is going to be hard... Females should make it more obvious, like... I don't know, saying it or something

It's easier to hint than to outright say it. If a hint is dismissed than they can assume you're not interested or in your case, oblivious. To say it directly without any sign that hints are being reciprocated is to risk awkwardness and complete rejection. It'd be like jumping into the water without testing it to make sure it's not ice cold.

You'll simply have to learn how to spot the hints... and how to reciprocate. It's just a part of life.

[the_robot]

I can see you "girl watching". "Ah, the vibrant red-head! See how she when she shakes her mane, the sun bounces brilliantly off the strands! Ah, it seems she is thoroughly enjoying a lollipop whilst making eye contact with a potential mate! This could be good!"

lol that reminds me of nature documentaries haha... I used to do something like that with a friend...

And ok, next time I see some weird behavior, I'll think it flirting...

If a woman is not interested in a guy we often avoid getting "touchy-feely".

A girl asking for a massage is a definite flirting tactic. Robot, these poor girls are probably so frustrated they're not getting anywhere with you lol.

hmmm.... A couple of guys also asked for massages, should I be worried if I have to go to public showers with them?

Next time a girl asks me for a massage I'll get the sign..

Dude. Are you effing blind? You could have had three girlfriends by now, you silly thing.

Three girlfriends at the same time? That sounds like too much work

[the_robot]

This is one part that bothers me the most. So many times women give these signals and after you make your move there's the.."Oh i'm sorry i didn't mean it like that, i was just being friendly." Sorry guys, but if you want a girl you'll have to make things happen. A lot of the guys have this thing where they make everything seem bigger then it really is. What you'll have to do is ask out many girls...because only then you'll become fearless. Guys who have no fear of rejection get the most girls.

Interesting... so I could have been right back then and they didn't mean it as more than being friendly.

It'd be like jumping into the water without testing it to make sure it's not ice cold.

I see... I'm going to have to be the one who gets wet in ice cold water then..