How do you know when the time is right to sleep with a man?

[lahnnabell]

In my world, there is no third date rule. There isn't any rule that dictates when I SHOULD be sleeping with a man. I will if I want to, and whether or not I do depends on how I feel about them. If a guy is pressuring me to get it on when I'm clearly not ready, he's gone. If a guy wants to walk away because he's not getting any and he thinks he should be, good, BYE.

A real man will know and understand that a woman should be treated like any other INDIVIDUAL. Meaning she has her own time line, her own priorities, her own likes and dislikes. Expecting that women will follow some preordained rule or risk looking like a prude/slut is incredibly immature and petty. If you truly like a girl you're dating and you find her to be worth it, then you'll stick around. There are plenty of other ways to let someone know you're into them without spreading your legs or dropping to your knees. Any guy that chooses to remain ignorant of that fact can keep walking.

[VincenzoG91]

From a guy's perspective, if things are moving too slowly, then there seems to be a problem. If a guy has other options, he may pursue those instead of trying to figure out the problem.

[lahnnabell]

From a guy's perspective, if things are moving too slowly, then there seems to be a problem. If a guy has other options, he may pursue those instead of trying to figure out the problem.

Then it comes down to what the girl wants. She can either decide that she'd rather be with a guy who will invest time into her as a person, or she can choose to put out and see if it keeps him hangin' around. A guy that's only interested in sex will go after just that. If he truly enjoys being around her and she makes him happy, he'll know that waiting is a good investment. Unless she's come closet case crazy girl. Which there are plenty of it seems.

And for the record, I'm not saying a girl has to abstain cuddling, kissing, and getting close, but she certainly shouldn't be expected to bed the guy to keep him satisfied.

[IndiReloaded]

Wrong question. Its not about how long you have been dating, tho a certain amount of time elasped will generally be necessary.

[IndiReloaded]

I can't believe that I'm the first one to mention The Third Date Rule. This is not top secret info, it's fairly well-known, judging by the nearly 6 million hits on Google.

I'd gladly send any guy off who insisted on this. Wrong library, nevermind on a different page.

[dewilliams2]

It happens when it happens.

So whenever you want to.

Keep in mind I don't tend to look very highly on a woman who will have sex with me after the first date. I just see it as if I got in that easy how many other guys before me have...know what I mean?

[VincenzoG91]

It happens when it happens.

So whenever you want to.

Keep in mind I don't tend to look very highly on a woman who will have sex with me after the first date. I just see it as if I got in that easy how many other guys before me have...know what I mean?

I guess I'm an optimist... I assume if I got laid on the first date, it's because I rock, not because she's loose.

[girl68]

Keep in mind I don't tend to look very highly on a woman who will have sex with me after the first date. I just see it as if I got in that easy how many other guys before me have...know what I mean?

I'd have a huge problem with you the hypocrite. After all I didn't get nailed by no one you'd be equally as easy. After all you got with me how many other dirty girls you'd get with?

[dewilliams2]

I guess I'm an optimist... I assume if I got laid on the first date, it's because I rock, not because she's loose.

I suppose I'm just a little old fashioned on some things and would like to think that a woman would make me wait just a little bit. Even if I did make a great impression and everything went great....I think one night could always be a fluke to...what if it can't be replicated...if there is a great second date to then I think its on. I mean it doesn't take much effort to get a first date but if you get a first date well thats good.

I do recall one time I went to pick up a girl. Now keep in mind I was 16 and she was 15 so we had talked online for awhile. I just got my drivers license and went to pick her up for our first real date. I got over to her place and as soon as she let me in she said "my parents aren't home" stuck her hand down my pants....long story short I got a bj and didn't talk to her again. I mean yea we talked online but that was our first face to face meeting...I guess I just feel I need to work a little harder for it.

Although as you noticed I totally went with it.

[phys251]

Hey guys!

Ok- my last two relationships lastest 5 and 10 years. So, I have been out of the game for many, many years. I'm dating a guy that I really like alot. I"m not rushing into anything at all, but do want to know from a guy's point of view a few questions.

-When is really too soon to sleep with a guy?

When either one of you isn't ready yet.

-When does a guy find a women "easy"?

Why would I look down on someone for simply following her biological instincts?

-Do guys respect a lady who waits it out for awhile?

If she's genuinely not ready, so be it. But if I find out she's doing this to play hard-to-get, then the date is over, because my time is too valuable for game-playing. If I wanted to just be friends, I wouldn't have asked her out!

LIke I mentioned, it's been awhile since I have been out there and want to not only respect myself, but make the right decision.

Thanks!!!!!

Dee

Dee, it's all about when you're ready and when he's ready. If that means the first date or the sixth date, it doesn't matter. People who create these artificial rules about dating--the Third-Date Rule or "not putting out too soon," for example--are bringing in needless complications. KISS--keep it simple, stupid, and have sex when you're ready, but only when you're ready. This spontaneity spices up the early stages of dating more than you can imagine, way more than playing hard-to-get!

[Cloud206]

I waited 6-7 months before my gf said she was ready to make love with me,but we slept in same bed long before that.I think u should strech it without any sex and see what happens,not all men are driven by their hormons and middle leg.

[xxazurexx]

If she's genuinely not ready, so be it. But if I find out she's doing this to play hard-to-get, then the date is over, because my time is too valuable for game-playing. If I wanted to just be friends, I wouldn't have asked her out!...

So you expect a woman to put out, while just dating?

And if you aren't looking for anything committed, then you shouldn't expect that she will screw you and if she is holidng out for sex till a committed relationship.

[phys251]

So you expect a woman to put out, while just dating?

And if you aren't looking for anything committed, then you shouldn't expect that she will screw you and if she is holidng out for sex till a committed relationship.

Don't read into my post something I didn't say. There should be no timetable on when the first sex should or should not happen.

[IndiReloaded]

I know men who won't have sex until they know a woman better, even if she offered. There are guys out there with standards too. They are generally what I call Gentlemen.

There are also men and women out there who think sex for fun is no big deal after a single date. Its only the hypocrites who think either are hoes for that attitude that are Red Flags. Its consistency of the attitude that matters.

The next important thing is to know which category you fit. Find partners who think like you and you'll have fewer problems.

[xxazurexx]

Don't read into my post something I didn't say. There should be no timetable on when the first sex should or should not happen.

But you said that if you suspect she is playing hard to get, then the date is over.
So I assumed you expect sex and when dating.....

And no timetable for you perhaps, but for 'decent' women looking for more, there tends to be and if he is a gentleman genuinely into her, he is willing to wait.

Women don't generally like to be used as whores for your pleasure and disposal.

And if you can't wait, you are NO LOSS