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[hamlet]

so im wondering if this guy likes me. i just broke up with my bf so i am lonely and i kind of want to date around, nothing serious but just for fun for now. OK im thinking he probably doesn't like me and never has. And I'm just reading too deeply into it now. But whatever, any opinions are welcome.

so when me and my bf were going out, I met this guy early on. he and i became good friends..like, we would talk in class and sit next to each other almost every day, and we would go out on those mini friends dates all the time to eat at some place. he would text me about nothing in general and we would text back and forth. and sometimes he would call me and we'd have these short but kind of cute conversations about nothing. and we would "work" together late at night and talk into the night for a few hours. (Legit work.) Usually when he texts or calls me, he usually abruptly ends the conversation first. As for body language, he never really looked at me a lot and wouldn't look back even if I looked at him. Basically his body language was more just...friendly with no strings attached.

Anyways, during these days he wouldn't be completely friendly with me, however. sometimes he'd ignore me like i wasnt important or wasnt there and talk to someone else, even when he's right next to me. when we'd be in a group he'd be much more interested in talking to everyone else but me. Anything that seemed remotely "flirty" or even friendly wouldn't be there when anyone else was present. We'd make plans to do things together sometimes but they would never work out because we'd (both) be too lazy to do them. Sometimes I got the feeling that he didn't like me very much. however, there would be like these cute signs where he'd ask me a lot about my boyfriend, but not really want to talk when i mention him. also he'd go places with me but only when i ask and not when his friends ask (idk about other girls, however). like, parties (altho i dance w/ my bf and he knew that and had nothing to do but just stand around).

but that was a while ago and since then he's been ignoring me even more.. I'd tell him to meet me somewhere and he'd not show up. when i see him he'd look at me and not say hi. (Could possibly be that he didn't see me, who knows.) In class I'd sit down, he'd come up to me and say hi, and then sit RIGHT in front of me even when nobody was there to wait for some other girl and talk to her. like he would talk to her and then suddenly turn around and be like "wouldn't you agree?" and i'd be like...uh, what? Even though we used to go to classes together he wouldn't go to the same ones that I was in anymore and when he does he wouldnt sit with me. However, he'd still ask me to eat with him once in a while which we did. So it wasn't complete cut off contact. We did some things once in a while, like go shopping, he drove me home. he would tease me a lot and I would tease back. we would go out to eat sometimes, like a one on one thing at a cute restaurant; i didnt have change, so he paid for it. blah blah blah. But it seemed more...like he wanted to make more friends, and was ignoring me to meet people other than me but didn't want to 'lose' me as a friend. So he could possibly just be trying to expand his friends circle. Now that I think about it, that seems like the most likely explanation. I mean, guys flirt all the time especially if the girl's being open- it doesn't mean anything, right?

Well, my bf and i broke up (reasons unrelated). And this guy seemed kind of curious at first, like asking a lot of question from me and my bf (they are friends, not as good friends as we are but friends). kind of acting obnoxious and nosy so my bf got mad, and told him to stop talking to me because we were trying to fix out "problems." so, my bf basically said we didn't break up but were having problems, so please go away. but we *did* break up, this guy probably knows this but not for sure. I mean, if he really cared, it would've been obvious. I told him that our problems weren't gonna be fixed. Still, he won't talk to me anymore. At all. Because he was all like "Im going to respect your bf's wishes, because we are friends." Well, *we* were better friends, I thought!! But anyways, yeah, so now, we don't talk at all.

Wondering what to do or think about this. And don't say ex's friends are off limits because I dont care and they're not that good of friends anyways.

This whole experience has been very hot and cold.

[TheTooya]

Ignoring you? Not saying Hi and not even meeting you up?

I dont care if this guy likes you or not, he doesn't sounds like good news...

[hamlet]

"Ignoring you? Not saying Hi and not even meeting you up?"

Okay, that's a bit exaggerated in the story sorry - he's done this maybe like once.

[vashti]

Whether or not you agree with his rationale, he has decided to stay away from you. I would just forget about him. It doesn't sound like he was all that crazy about you (in a romantic sense) anyway. If he is interested in dating you, believe me, he will move in like a shark chasing prey.