Advice please im young and confused

[Mish]

but what are we doing, is it friends with benefits, is it a open relationship, is he using me, i need him to clarify what it is :/

Probably the former

[girl68]

You don't get it. After 4 years you still don't grasp that you are a his dirty little secret and he probably is just using you.

[loznaz18]

i dont understand why a boy would use the same girl 3 timesin 4 years instead off moving around with different girls?

[girl68]

What makes you think he hasn't?

[Regnent]

Could be very insecure, or overly cautious.
Though, him cheating on other women, kinda rubs me the wrong way.