Plz read. I need advice

[RFS20]

What is my next step??? advice is desperately needed.
quick background: *please keep in mind when reading this that I love this woman and still want her more than anything...
My ex and I were together for 2 years and knew each other for another 2 years before that. It was the type of connection you hope to have with someone. The relationship became somewhat long distance(hr and a half) due to work constraints and it certainly had an effect because we were limited in the time we could spend together. Ultimately we broke up over lack of physically seeing each other and the arguments that ensued from it(this was 2 months ago). Every day since then I wake up with a pain in my chest-she is the first thing i think of when I wake up and the last thing when i go to bed. A week after she texted me that she missed me and whatnot-to which i replied that i think we made a mistake. Nonetheless, we stayed apart and I did a month of no contact until she sent me a text saying she missed me and loved me, etc. You all know how hard it is to go from talking every day to suddenly stopping. Well, it really affected each of us and we agreed(although reluctantly) to see each other with the promise that we wouldnt try to jump back into things. Within the first few minutes it was like we hadnt skipped a beat. Maybe one of the best days we have ever had. Withholding some details, I spent the night at her place. The next morning we agreed to do it again soon( i was trying to take it slow and, again, not jump into things). So about a week later we meet and have another fantastic day. The days that followed were great with texts, calls, all that good stuff. Suddenly, she calls one night and says that she thinks we are moving too fast and that she needs to focus on getting into med school so she didnt want to do this. It was a complete 180 from where we were going.That was a few days ago and we havent talked since then.
It is difficult for us because we are still an hr away from each other and work full time. Also, we are both beginning grad school soon so time will be even more strained. However, in the next month I am moving down to about 20 minutes from her(both in NYC) because I got a promotion. Yesterday she sent me an email saying "she still cares for me and she doesnt want to rush because she still isnt sure about us being the best for each other", she "thinks we should take a break from each other to figure things out", and she "wants to put her effort into getting into school". Obviously its frustrating because we already have taken a break from each other and look how that turned out...we missed each other more than ever. Im a firm believer that if you love someone you make it work. All the success in the world is meaningless if you dont have someone to share it with. People balance work, school and a relationship everyday.
She cant seem to make up her mind with things between us. She still cares, thinks about me all the time, sleeps in my shirt still... and i miss her just as much.

So, what should I do? I decided to now go no contact again with the hope that it makes her miss me. Trust me I hate playing games and stuff but I dont know what to do. Should I keep trying to make it work? Do I wait until im down by her to try again? Do I lay it all on the line? Please tell me what to say, do, anything to get my relationship back on track again. What is my best plan of action???

[WaiKru]

So, what should I do? I decided to now go no contact again with the hope that it makes her miss me. Trust me I hate playing games and stuff but I dont know what to do. Should I keep trying to make it work? Do I wait until im down by her to try again? Do I lay it all on the line? Please tell me what to say, do, anything to get my relationship back on track again. What is my best plan of action???

Honestly, you have it pretty easy here. She obviously still cares about you a lot, so the no contact for a week or so will probably do the trick. So set a date in your mind about 2 weeks from now, and that's when you can give her a call again. Until then don't contact her. If she contacts you by all means be very nice, but don't chat it up for 4 hours or something. Talk for a little bit but then say you have to get going to run some errands or do some work or something, it was nice talking to her, and you'll talk to her later. If what you're saying is true, and she really does still care about you and sleep in your shirt and all that, it wont take long for her to miss you. But DO NOT jump on the first sign of her missing you and explode with emotion telling her how much you missed her and what not. Take things slow and steady and you should be good to go!

[Fene]

Honestly, you have it pretty easy here. She obviously still cares about you a lot, so the no contact for a week or so will probably do the trick. So set a date in your mind about 2 weeks from now, and that's when you can give her a call again. Until then don't contact her. If she contacts you by all means be very nice, but don't chat it up for 4 hours or something. Talk for a little bit but then say you have to get going to run some errands or do some work or something, it was nice talking to her, and you'll talk to her later. If what you're saying is true, and she really does still care about you and sleep in your shirt and all that, it wont take long for her to miss you. But DO NOT jump on the first sign of her missing you and explode with emotion telling her how much you missed her and what not. Take things slow and steady and you should be good to go!

Follow this advice.. Not much else I can say!

[Teddy057]

Well, she's made it obvious she wants to focus on getting in to med school or whatever. I think if it's meant to be, it'll work out in the future. But, the thing that always gets me about this type of thing is that if two people equally want something bad enough, they can make any circumstance work.

If you still want her after months of no contact, I would say go for it. But, the time apart will be good for you two. By no means are you tied to this woman, and don't be afraid to take other women out on dates. I think the worst thing you can do is totally shut yourself off from other opportunities that present themselves. Taking other women out on dates doesn't mean you have to instantly fall in love, it just means you're testing other waters. Who knows, maybe you'll find someone you like much more. I really don't think she's just sitting at home dwelling over the loss of your relationship, so neither should you.