My ex boyfriend just got married.

I never had grad illusions of getting him back. We had a good relationship for 6 months followed by a very miserable year. I did the mistake of thinking he was going through a phase, and things would go back to the way they were. But instead it just got progressively worse.

So now he married someone that totally shocks me. His new wife is self admittedly bipolar (he always claimed his ex drove him away because of her dramatic mood swings), she is a extremely extremely religious (he is non affiliated 'spiritual'), although close to his age she has a young child and a job where she can't transfer her benifits (he is close to retiring and didn't want to stay in the area), she has been married previously 4 times (he was convinced women have financial ulterior motives and trade husbands/significant others for that purpose), he hates any inconvenience or opinion that goes against what he wants to do (she likes to take charge).

How do I know this about her. I live in small town USA and someone told me about him and his new wife. He lives 45 miles away and someone was just gossipping about a messed up situation and had no idea that I knew him.


Basically this woman is the opposite of me. A lot of the things he directly said he liked about me, he went out and found the exact opposite and married it.

So now I want to call a friend who works his wife to verify what I just heard. I keep asking myself why I want to do this. And the only answers I can come up with is I want to find out that he is on a highway to disaster and speeding to his destination AND why would he dump me and then marry a woman that met his definition of 'a walking train wreck'? I feel like I'm being sort of psycho and I should just let the topic drop. How normal is this behaviour of being confused and actually curious on what your ex does?