Originally Posted by
twinrexes
I agree with Radarsonar, don't just jump back into things with him. He's very confused and clearly doesn't know what he wants right now. He's depressed and drinking and misses you but he hasn't asked to get back with you. HE was the one who initiated the breakup and says he doesn't love you anymore. Sometimes that feeling of falling out of love can come from missing the old chemistry you used to have when things were new. Or the thrill of the chase, as in when he was first courting you. Maybe you two fell into a routine and he felt he was in a rut. Maybe he's having a touch of mid life crisis or itching to see "what else is out there".
This breakup could be a good time for both of you to get a little space and perspective. It also gives him a chance to remember all the good things about you that attracted him to you in the first place and kept him by your side for 11 years. That's a long time and a lot of history. Let him sit with his feelings for now and don't try to make it all better or talk about it yet. Keep you conversations brief and best if you don't talk at all. He needs to figure out if this is what he really wants and that will require at least a few weeks, maybe months.
very good answer
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