I'm going to try to keep this simple. My girlfriend and I have been together about a year and a month. I love my girlfriend's personality and she's also physically attractive. She's a bit overweight but it disperses on her pretty well so it's sometimes hard to tell depending on what she wears. I love her because she is a smart girl, hard working, very supportive, and she really does care about me.
My only issue with her is that she doesn't seem concerned enough for her health. I'm an active person and I am also a kinesiology major. As part of my lifelong health and career goal, I have educated myself on food and I stay within certain health guidelines and work out often. She, on the other hand, acts like she cares about her health but she is hardly health-minded at all and doesn't seem to want to put forth the effort to drop her extra fat and eat well.
This is an issue to me. A big issue. One of the things I told myself is that I'd eventually be with a health-oriented and active girl. I'm a very active guy and besides even the health thing, I feel like my girlfriend just cannot keep up with my activity. She's always wanting to lay around, go on slow walks, and go to bed early while I am always full of energy, want to run, and go to bed later.
My problem is that I know she loves me and I do love her great personality, but I don't know how to explain to her that I cannot stay with her unless she starts caring more for her health. Unfortunately, I don't even know if she knows what caring for her health really is thanks to her upbringing... And even if I do decide to break it off, I don't know how to do it... She already told me that she loves me and if we break up, it'll break her heart AGAIN. Apparently her past boyfriends have just left her without any explanation so she's been pretty sad in the past...
In summary, I have really 2 main issues with this:
1. I don't like how she isn't interested much in her health because this will start to massively effect her as she gets older and could even limit our time together. In addition, it will surely be costly as the medical bills roll in.
2. Since I am a lot more active than her, it leaves me desiring more sometimes when we're hanging out. I feel like I'm being limited or drug down by her inactivity. I also cannot run with her, can hardly ever work out with her, and etc...
I just don't know what to do and how to do it... Can anyone please offer some advice? Thanks.