Its ok to hit a woman. He said ....

[JadenMia]

ahaha you cant get through to some one like that. try to say those things to those girls she will turn around and tell you to "mind your own bloody business" and "how does my issues affect YOU" lol
the guy makes her real happy when things are good. thats why they always go back for more. healthy nice man should never get involved with those kind of girls...they'll drain you mentally with her issues...take your confidence away and leave you nothing but your shell.
then goes back to her abusing bf again cos her heart only fits one man at a time. all your goodness = rubbish.

I disagree with you. If one of 'these girls' know that they are being mistreated and knows she deserves better and already knows she is going to leave.They need help, support, some comforting advice and some slight hope that their life is going to get better in some way..That they are going to eventually find something worthwhile if they actually do leaving their abuser and not just try.
I am one of 'those girls'.. Not a stupid girl that doesnt understand these things.. not someone who doesnt deserve something better.. I am looking for a better man when i am ready and i KNOW i will not 'drain him mentally'..
I just got stuck with a bad person whom i loved..

My goodness is not rubbish either. Im just trying to help. Even if it is a litttle farfetched that someone would put up with all this.. Its not impossible. Why try make someone feel like shit and take their hope away that their life wont get better because of a few issues they might have..

I hope her all the best.

[GK001]

I disagree with you. If one of 'these girls' know that they are being mistreated and knows she deserves better and already knows she is going to leave.They need help, support, some comforting advice and some slight hope that their life is going to get better in some way..That they are going to eventually find something worthwhile if they actually do leaving their abuser and not just try.
I am one of 'those girls'.. Not a stupid girl that doesnt understand these things.. not someone who doesnt deserve something better.. I am looking for a better man when i am ready and i KNOW i will not 'drain him mentally'..
I just got stuck with a bad person whom i loved..

My goodness is not rubbish either. Im just trying to help. Even if it is a litttle farfetched that someone would put up with all this.. Its not impossible. Why try make someone feel like shit and take their hope away that their life wont get better because of a few issues they might have..

I hope her all the best.

yeah...i did try to help support, comfort and lift up one of those girls...she left her ex. she filed a intervention order. but in the end i became a martyr. used and abused, i gave her everything to get her self esteem back. then she left my life with out a word during christmas haha cant even be friends now. cos she choose the wonderful animal shes currently fking.
those are the exact words she used when i tried to talk to her before "how does my issues affect YOU" . its been 3month and some days there is still pain. Like many here has said stay away...dont chance it.

[girl68]

Beating a person around isn't necessary to maintain self defense.

I didn't say it was necessary, I said " acceptable."

[sadie_genie]

This is really sad. I have never been in an abusive relationship but I heard the victim usually have a lot of trouble leaving the relationship. This man doesn't love you and it isn't right for him to hit you. For your own safety and health, you have to leave. Seek out a counselor or a social worker who can help you through this. I wish you the best of luck.

[JadenMia]

yeah...i did try to help support, comfort and lift up one of those girls...she left her ex. she filed a intervention order. but in the end i became a martyr. used and abused, i gave her everything to get her self esteem back. then she left my life with out a word during christmas haha cant even be friends now. cos she choose the wonderful animal shes currently fking.
those are the exact words she used when i tried to talk to her before "how does my issues affect YOU" . its been 3month and some days there is still pain. Like many here has said stay away...dont chance it.

Well i think it is wonderful that you tried to help a woman in that situation. Maybe the world needs more men like yourself.. And im pretty sure she will appreciate what you did even if she stupidly went back to an abuser.. He probably manipulated her into thinking she needed him and completely mind f*cked her.. More fool her..
But really, now you know not to get involved with a woman that is still in the process of moving on from a man like that.. He will try manipulate her, he will try sweet talk her into coming back. She probably loves him and falls for his every word.. And you are left like that.
Sorry to hear about your pain and i hope it gets better in time.. But for this woman it may be different.. She may truly want to get away and may succeed in doing so..So lets wish her the best

[ashley89]

my question is, why in the ****ing world are you still with this guy?

[warriormaiden]

Oh. My. GAWD.
And you're still with him WHY?

He is BEYOND toxic for you. If you need help to get away from him, there should be some abuse centers that are MORE than ready to offer assistance. Get away from him NOW.

[GK001]

my question is, why in the ****ing world are you still with this guy?

thats wot happens with girls that cant control her heart and have a weak mind. reading this forum and some research has made me realize this, cos it didnt make sense to me before as well. wish i known about this forum earlier.
according to others the only way for them to get out is to wake up from it one day by hitting rock bottom...either been bashed half to death or having their children bashed. they always hold on to this hope of the man changing. that hope will some times last for 10-20yrs? life wasted.

Well i think it is wonderful that you tried to help a woman in that situation. Maybe the world needs more men like yourself.. And im pretty sure she will appreciate what you did even if she stupidly went back to an abuser.. He probably manipulated her into thinking she needed him and completely mind f*cked her.. More fool her..
But really, now you know not to get involved with a woman that is still in the process of moving on from a man like that.. He will try manipulate her, he will try sweet talk her into coming back. She probably loves him and falls for his every word.. And you are left like that.
Sorry to hear about your pain and i hope it gets better in time.. But for this woman it may be different.. She may truly want to get away and may succeed in doing so..So lets wish her the best

no...the world dont need more men like me lol i'm here to warn other nice men to no be a "martyr". i dont feel she appreciate me at all. i judge others by their actions...i was her door mat...i was her tool.
she acts like i;m a stranger now (never contacted me. said "i dont know you" to my face) and totally forgotten what i did to help her go through hell. i even gave up my feelings for her just to be that friend whos always gonna be there. but nooo we cant even be friends.
anyway wotever. stay away from girls like that, they have their own mental issues to resolve before getting involved.

[Mr. Turtle]

As a guy, I say leave him penniless as well. Its one of the bad things about a shared account. Also, just bite the bullet, pack up and leave. Find a new life and rebuild. Good luck, godspeed.

[HeartIsAching]

Umm yeah, self defense in my country is legal. If you went to jail for 'self defense' your lawyer sucked.
This is my argument any person can hit another regardless of gender when the circumstance is self defense.

It isn't in most states in the U.S. There's a common misconception about it, however.

I won't say what I did was right - it wasn't. I have however, learned a lot in my classes, and still am. I'm a better man today than I was a couple of years ago. And wanting to be a better husband for my wife. It's a process, it's not throwing a switch.

[Petit Papillon]

Are you making some kind of collection of bad things he`s doing to you? I will never understand why some woman stay with their partners after so many bad things happen. And then they are even ready to complain about it!!! We know what you have to do, you know it too. LEAVE . There is no ifs and buts and whatever . There is not also other advice you need to hear. Just maybe that you should call a police on your bf. If you not leave your bf , you better go to therapy and don`t come back here with some pity story. It`s in sake of your life. Got it?

[Petit Papillon]

And next time create one thread for God`s sake this time !!!!!!!