Hello,
Firstly I am 25 and was with my Fiancé for 7 years. We got engaged last year (July) and bought a new house in the start of December last year.
At the end of January she started acting a bit strange to the point where it just felt like she didn’t want to be around me in a club on a night out..
I found out she had been sending messages to another man for a week and went a bit insane, she told me she didn’t love me anymore and just didn’t feel the same about me, despite nothing changing apart from getting a bigger house and starting to try for a family (both her ideas) and had came off her 'pill' for the first time in about 12 years!
I left the house at the start of February (wish I had not but my mind was in a mess..)
I still speak to her often, normally me initiating the conversation though, she says she still does not want to be with me but wants to be friends. She assures me there is nobody else and that the other person she was messaging was nothing.. :-S I do believe her but of course this could all be lies....
Its very confusing as I did not appear to have done anything wrong or changed at all, in fact I had stopped playing computer games and watching TV etc to try and spend more time with her and to do work on the house.
The house is still in pieces as I have stripped all of the walls taken off all the radiators and moved all the furniture out before this happened (literally a day before).
I am totally devastated and don’t know what’s going on where I went wrong.
I just want to make things right with her and get back on track but it seems nothing I do is working.. I’ve tried all the normal things, sending her love letters, presents, shout outs on the radio when she’s driving home. I have also tried all the other 'controversial' methods! i.e getting drunk and going around acting like a lunatic, crying uncontrollably, making insane accusations etc......
We have never really argued before this, we have never cheated on each other and spent basically all of our time together...
Its been over 5 weeks now and I still feel terrible, any ideas how I could get her back or what I should do next?