Hi all. My fiance and I (her:31, me:33) have been having these conversations for a long time now, but now it's starting to get to a boiling point, and I am unsure what to do, I'm starting to develop a serious depression.
The thing is my fiance likes to be around other men. In fact she has told me on numerous occasions, that women are not interresting, she always had exclusively male friends, and it will always be like that. That in itself is not the problem. But she insists on her right to go out with her best friends now and then, without me - they are her old friends, knows them for 20+ years, and I can't fit in she says. I have not asked her again, but a few months ago she was even fighting for her right to go out to party in the nights with them.
Now, if I am not completely mistaking, she is not the cheating type. The problem is not that I don't have confidence in her not sleeping with them. But I feel I am excluded from a part of her life. It feels a lot like she is embarrased of me in front of her friends.
I have told these concerns of mine, but she dismisses all of them, that I am overreacting, and what she's doing is perfectly normal, and I should deal with my abnormal feelings to accept her lifestyle.
A couple of months ago I have asked something similar on this forum, and I was advised by many of you, that the partner has the right for her privacy and her friends - but this whole thing just doesn't feel right. What bothers me most is her fervent fight to exclude me - she says that is because I am restricting her too much, and that is her reaction.
So I come here before you again: am I really overreacting, and trying to limit her too much? Am I wrong in thinking there's something not right in this?