I'm extremely confused.
For the past 3 years or so, I'm on a course to find a girlfriend. 3 YEARS.
Am I doing something wrong? obviously yes. Does my actions justify this poor fact? hell no.
First of all, I got what it takes to give a "fight" to other guys. By all means. I'm 23, a good looking guy, tall, intelligent, funny, right amounts of self-confidence, assertive when needed, head on my shoulders, loving, caring and so on. And, by all means - I can and know how to talk to women. Maybe I'm not the best fruit on the tree when it comes to flirting and all, but I sure am ok at that.
If that's the case, why can't I find someone for so long? so to speak, it's not that I can't find a girlfriend, but I can't even get a DATE. That's right.. for 3 years, I've been on a 1 single date, that didn't go anywhere. That's it. By the way, that date was pretty nice as far as I'm concerned.. she said it wasn't "it". What's IT exactly? YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW 1% OF WHO I AM, HOW CAN YOU JUDGE SO FAST?. Jeez!
I could point two things that might be the cause for this current situation:
1. Perhaps, I'm doing something really wrong when it comes to the actual courting. That means, I'm not giving the woman the right "justification" to be excited about meeting me.
2. Perhaps, I can't create enough sexual tension. Can't remember the last time a girl was chasing me, or getting really excited to meet me or anything like that. Which in the end, leads to nowhere.
Oh, In a matter of fact, there was someone about a week ago (one of the reasons for me to opening this thread, lol). I met her online through local forum, and she was really into me (being really objective here), we talked on the phone several times, and we were suppose to date on the last weekend. Guess what? We didn't date eventually, and I didn't hear from her for a week now. Suddenly I wasn't that interesting anymore, enough for her to forget my existence. What on earth is going on?
Now, I'm going back to the first words of the topic: I'm extremely confused.
Why? because that makes no sense.
It's not like I'm hitting on top models or super-picky girls that on first glance won't even squint into my direction. Honestly I don't.
Why is it so hard, that's something I could never understand.
Ok, so a woman won't go out with anyone because obviously there's gotta be some kind of filtration, and there are alot of jerks out there, so being picky is some kind of a safeguard.
Does that mean that after being so picky you will find the right man? NO!.
A friend of mine is a very desirable man. Very good looking, very assertive and vivid, a true Alpha male when it comes to women. He could get almost anyone whenever he wants, and women fall for him like flies. But guess what? He cheat. ALOT.
He had wonderful girlfriends for the past 8 years (two of them for 2 years.. he cheated alot on both of them). Just yesterday he got into a new relationship.. the poor girl.
So, you picky picky woman - You found your man.. but just for your information - he's cheating on you! So I guess your choice wasn't so great after all eh?
And lets not mention the divorce percentage of how much? 50%? which just further justify my point - Most women don't find their "right guy". It's just the illusion of being in control, that they might find prince charming if they really put themselves into it, while they are missing the actual point - Find someone that will suit YOU, not the SOCIETY.
It just can't be that you gotta be some kind of a specialist to achieve something so humanitarian as being with a women. That's just like breathing, eating and drinking. That's something each and everyone on earth should have.
So why am I alone?