I have one last shot to make this right... I really love her

[soswv]

Long time girlfriend and I had been happy for almost 2 years. We then hit a rough patch. We did not get to see each other as much for the past few months and fell into a habit of texting back and forth all day. Now, 2 months later the relationship has fizzled and she is wanting out. She says the texting has been brutal and I agree. I think we just did not know what else to do and fell into a bad habit. Now, she is saying that she has lost the spark and is not feeling like she wants to continue.

I proposed that we meet up face to face this weekend (have not seen each other in a month) and talk and then only communicate next week via 1 e-mail every evening before we go to bed. She wants to gain the feelings back and so do I. However, it looks like I only have this 1 week trial to make this happen

Does anyone have any thoughts on this? Am I doing the right thing? Would a break be better?

[Cerby]

I personally believe breaks are a bad idea, its just a pre-cursor to a break up. That said, you can agree to see each other a little less for the next few weeks, maybe schedule dates and hang out once a week for a coffee as sort of a "check in". But make sure you're clear that its not a break, its simply not an option in your case.

When you meet her this weekend, make sure you say EVERYTHING you need to say, write it down if you have to (I always do) and leave knowing that you may walk away single, or you may walk away in a complicated at best situation.

Don't let yourself get caught in the limbo of a break, you'll just spend your time confused and not actually building on yourself.

Also, screw the texting and email, take some complete days to yourself, and when you want to talk, talk briefly on the phone or schedule a chance to meet. impersonal communication like texting is damaging in bad situations.

[soswv]

It is a long distance relationship at the moment. Meeting in person is only possible this Saturday.

[Bonfire]

It is a long distance relationship at the moment. Meeting in person is only possible this Saturday.

I have one word for you: relocate. If you won't or if she won't, then it won't work out. The long distance is the source of problem. Like someone said Long Distance Relationship = No relationship.

[smackie9]

LDR's should only be short term. They offer excitement, etc but eventually just like any relationship, it needs to go to the next level or it will stall, and then fail. You must relocate to be together and share your lives together physically. So when you meet up, seek out to make plans to be together, if it is too much of an impossibility, then yes it would be best to part ways.....like I tell everyone....date locally!

[soswv]

We have done it for a few years. We usually see each other every other week at least. This is the first time where it has been a problem.

[smackie9]

We have done it for a few years. We usually see each other every other week at least. This is the first time where it has been a problem.

Relationships must progress.
She's looking for something more permanent.....moving in together.