My ex was with her ex husband for 7 years....married for 4 years. They divorced and she moved back here. She had been divorced for a year tell she met me....she asked me out.Im 24 shes 27. We were together for 5 months and everything was great. I saw her everyday and we either stayed at her house or my house overnight. We wernt really apart for too long while we were together. She was the first girl to ever say she loved me when I said it to her. One night I asked her if she ever considered getting married again....I wasnt forcing anything...just a question. She said she wasnt really over her divorce yet and she told me she didnt want to give me fulse hope. A couple weeks went by and I noticed a change. I felt like I was forcing affection and she was kinda pulling away. The last time we had sex it was akward...I tried to warm her up and she really wasnt into it. 2 weeks went by and I noticed something was bothering her. Everytime i asked her she said nothing but she was all currled up at the end of the couch away from me. One day she stright up told me she needed space and she wants to be with me but she still wasnt over her divorce and I wasnt helping by being all close and smothering her. I was also picking out falws in her....I truly didnt even know I was doing it cuz i do it with friends all the time and they do it to me as well. She said I was killing her self esteem. I feel sooooo bad about that. I told her I was sorry about that and she accepted. She told me that she would never go back with her ex but spending 7 years with someone and then stright up leaving it was becoming really hard on her....plus she was having family problems too. She told me with all that stress coming down on her at once she couldnt handle that and my depressed state I was in cuz she wasnt talking to me. Shes a very independent women and doesnt show much emotion...me on the other had does...maybe a little to much. We sat down one day and she said she couldnt be with me rightnow because of all the stress. She finally told me what was wrong, started crying and currled up beside me. Ever since I felt like there was still a chance so I kep trying and trying...telling her feelings and stuff. I truly love this girl and she knows that and she has told me a couple time that she still cares about me. One night we hung out at the bar....she txted me and said she wished things were different between and it was taking all her energy not to tell me to come over because it not fair to either her or I. Is she staying away from me because she really wants our relationship to work someday or is she pushing me away for good? She wanted to give me my stuff back from her house last week....she said it was sitting in her room and her new puppy kept trying to get into it. She never asked for her stuff from my house...I asked her if she wanted it and she txted sure"with a smiley face...if that means anything". I went and got it..we talked about things like adults and she said she still cares but she doesnt know if shes ready and she doesnt want to hurt me. I really want to be with her and I can be 10000% better than her ex and she knows that but shes still holding back. She has told me "I hope we both get the help we need so we can be better together someday" Im really hoping on that but with this break up and the distance Im afraid she will lose feelings for me. Im giving her some time to get better. Ive stopped talking to her and its been a week with no contact between either of us. Im really wondering if the reason why she hasnt tried to get ahold of me is because she is just throwing words at me and doesnt really care. Will it take longer than a week for her to contact me if she still cares about me. Do you think shes not talking to me because she want us to have time to ourselves for a little bit? We tried to be friends and hang out but it was too hard for me to just act as friends. Do you think she just want to give me time to calm my emotions down. Rightnow im getting help to try and calm my emotions and shes getting help with her divorce. Im waiting for a month then I will casually ask her for lunch an try to become apart of her life....is this a good idea? I know she not out dating but I just get that wired feeling sometimes....just because of the distance i think. She also has a lot of people to hang out with and take her mind off of things. Im afraid she will move on and totally forget about me. If theres anyone out here that can help me I would be greatful. My heart had a huge hole in it and I want her to fill it....she very special to me. I want to ask a divorced or recently divorced women because I have know idea what your thinking or how much your hurt. I couldnt even imagine what your going through.