Hello I have been involved with a woman for about 1.5 yrs now. Shortly after we met, we accidentally got pregnant. Since I live many miles away from her home (which is actually my hometown where my parents live) we began to conduct a long distance relationship. In the beginning I did love her but this began to slowly evaporate over time. I began to see the darker sides to her personality and this caused me to withdraw.
Eventually our beautiful son was born and we continued our relationship but deep down I knew that it was falling apart because we are so vastly different. I didnt know what to do. I wanted to support her and our son, but I started to feel that there was no way I was going to marry her. She gave me gifts and was sweet to me on many levels, but her darker attributes pushed me away more and more. Arrogance, bossy, angry, closed minded. On a couple of occasions my family heard the way she speaks to me sometimes and were very hurt. I couldnt get past these parts of her.
It got to the point that the only real reason we communicated was so that we could find out about our son. no affection was ever given except for a few occasions. She continued to give me sweet gifts, but never said "I Love You" except for on a hallmark card.
She is deployed now. Our son is in the very capable care of my sister. We spoke every so often on Skype with each other and with our son, trying to get him to interact with us. Last night she tells me that she doesnt have feelings for me anymore. I tell her tonight that I feel the same and that it would be best if we were to end our relationship and remain friends and raise our son the best way we can. She was very hurt by this but we ended our conversation and will prolly not speak for some time.
This all sounds so easy and simplistic. On paper it makes so much since, but this hurts. It hurts so so so much. I dont understand. I did have feelings for her! Why is this hurting?!? Why does the thought of her smile make my eyes well up!? I keep seeing her face, her smile, and her sweet gestures and its tearing me up inside!! God I feel so awful!!! Ive had such wonderful times with her and sweet memories and now it all amounts to nothing but pain and heartache and I am the primary cause. Im so terribly sad that I literally feel sick.....Im terrified ive ruined something that was good when I know deep down that it wasnt.....what the Hell have I done to myself!