A no might be a yes, but not knowing is driving me crazy.

[Dubular]

Per usual this is about a girl. Quite literally the girl of my dreams, because it's actually more unusual for me NOT to dream about her. Anyways We've been friends for years, and for a year or so now she's known how I felt. There's been a few sparks since then, but nothing too significant.

I asked her this past weekend if she wanted to come with me to my brother's wedding. I didn't specify, but I'm pretty sure she understood it to mean like a date.Anyways, she said no because she already promised to be at a grad party three hours away. I'm disheartened, but I could hear the disappointment in her voice, and how she made it clear that it was because of the promise, not the party that she was going.

Tuesday night she visits my college, and we end up going to a bar with some friends. The drinks get flowing pretty good, but I didn't really talk to her until she told me that the place she works at might be making it mandatory for her to work saturday morning, aka day of wedding/grad party. She says if that happens she can come to the wedding.

I haven't talked to her since, mostly because she works 2nd shift and I work first, so I'm left going crazy. I don't want to get my hopes up, because I don't think it would be that hard for her to take off work (I worked there last summer, I know) but I can't help but get excited.

At first I felt like a second choice, but I feel like her working could actually be an excuse to get out of her promise. But she obviously wants to go, or she wouldn't have told me that at all.

Anyone else's take on this? Mainly I needed to get this off my chest, as I'm living by myself atm and going crazy thinking about it.

[Dubular]

That's a solid idea, I haven't lifted in the last few weeks since the guy I always lifted with moved back home. I might just have to push myself to start going again.

And I've partially put some extra pressure on myself that's not really necessary. A few years back after both of my sisters go married and I didn't have a girlfriend or any prospects for that matter, I told myself I would have a date for my bro's wedding. Kinda stupid, but it is what it is.

[devonbrown]

Yeah... don't worry too much about that thing you told yourself a few years back. That was old you. This is new you.
If she can't make it to the wedding, it still doesn't mean she isn't digging you. Weddings are tough first dates too. But it does sound like she would like to go, so that is a very good thing.

Good luck.