This doesn't involve me...but opinions please

[qwertz]

I have a male friend that is being a total fcuking idiot right now, he is constantly asking for my advice about this and right now i really cant be arsed to give it to him...i have more important stuff to be dealing with.

So anyway...

This guy is divorced, he had a relationship that lasted for a few months, with a woman(woman A) 2 years ago. Since then he has been in a relationship that lasted a year and ended about 6 months ago.
A few months ago, he got back in touch with woman A. Woman A is in a relationship but they met up and ended up having sex. He then met up with her last week and they had sex again.
Now...woman B is a colleague of his, when he was in his year long realtionship he had a few drunk kisses with her towards the end of the relationship. Since his relationship ended him and B have been meeting up and going on the odd date, but she has been quite distant and there is the added complication of her family who want her to only date and be involved with chinese guys. In the time between splitting with his ex and sleeping with A, B told him that she loved him, yet was still being distant, cancelling dates on a regualr basis and not going past first base sexually.

He then told woman B about him sleeping with woman A and how woman A blows his mind. She has been very distant since but they have met up for the odd dinner etc. In this time he slept with woman A again (so a total of two times).

He made the decision to tell woman B that they had no future and that they should just be friends, she agreed. BUT, since then, B has been saying she wants to still go out for dinner, come round to his place etc and go on outing with him and his kids "just as friends".
Thing is, my friend REALLY likes woman B...as in, really really likes her! The problem is, he knows it wont work out but he just cant help himself.
I have told him that he needs to stop meeting up just the two of them and find someone that is going to make him happy (he wants to settle down).
Oh and the added complication he is in love with woman A, but cant have her as she is in a relationship.

Personally, i think B is maybe playing games, she isnt interested until he tells her that they should just be friends and then she is all over him like a rash.

Opinions please, as blunt as possible as this is being copied and pasted and emailed to him!!!

[IndiReloaded]

He needs to tell B, clearly, he isn't interested. B needs to take a hint and move on. Why would she want to spend time with his kids 'as friends'. Weird.

Anyway, sounds like your friend isn't able to cut someone loose for their own sake and is a bit of an attention ho.

[sadie_genie]

So, he has been sleeping with a cheating woman (Woman A) but also going out with a mind playing woman (woman B)? It doesn't seem like either of them are very good choices. Why isn't he dating available women?

[Wakeup]

If your friend is serious about wanting to settle down (coughtbullshitcough) he wouldn't be (a) fvcking a married woman Whoops, I mean a woman already in a relationship. (skankcoughsskank) and (b) entertaining a disinterested gold-digging sounding kinda gal. (does he pay for these 'friendly' get togethers or does she contribute like a real friend would?)

Anyway. My suggestion is that he drop the skankdom and quit bedding the married, whoops.. already taken woman and then tell the girl that will eventually be married to a chinese guy to please her parents that he's not interested in plantonic friendships with women and then go zero contact with her.

He needs to start fresh after he gets his head on straight. He sounds pretty confused, has fear of abandonment, likely and is playing "house" with two women at the same time. Hardly sounding legit in wanting to "settle down."

[Mish]

The guy sounds a bit messed up, I'd stay out of it completely