it is a matter of understanding and respecting your partner's feeling.
Agreed... but it goes both ways. Op (andTremolo and others) also has to understand and respect her partners feelings and if part of him enjoys rubbing one out to porn once in a while then she needs to compromise on her rigidness as well or the relationship will simply fail. A good relationship is not about having to give up everything for another. It is about being able to accept or compromise on a lot of shit. Unfortunately I'm seeing a lot of "all about me" from several people in this and the other thread. Compromise people, compromise.
I also agree with Vashti. When we get older we do indeed tend to chilll the **** out and when you're in a relationship where you know for a fact that you're 100% valued, things like fake-boobed porn chicks or plastic surgeried womyn in the real are the last things you'll feel threatened about.
I know many people say watching porn is natural and normal. Well, so is flirting with the opposite sex.
there is a HUGE difference there wherein one is actual where the other is fantasy. Not the same thing... sorry to disagree.
The best is everyone finding someone who shares the same values and there won't be a problem.
Way to rigid. Whether one likes it or not, a gal will have a hard time finding a man who does not fantasize to some form of porn. For sure she'll have a hard time finding one that doesn't masturbate. This is where Vincenzo's Al Franklin quote applies. "It's better to put on slippers than to carpet the whole world." Great quote for this and the other thread, V.
P.P.S.
It's a guy thing...that hurts women
No, It's a human nature thing that only hurts women who are insecure about certain things in their relationship or within themselves. Which once said insecurities are outgrown will be totally (certainly mostly) unhurtful.
Last edited by Wakeup; 07-07-11 at 01:06 AM.
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