It's a guy thing...that hurts women

[sadie_genie]

IMO if he respects you enough to keep it somewhat hidden, its okay.

[vashti]

IMO if he respects you enough to keep it somewhat hidden, its okay.

I agree that discretion is something I would insist upon.

[leoben]

Agreed... but it goes both ways. Op (andTremolo and others) also has to understand and respect her partners feelings and if part of him enjoys rubbing one out to porn once in a while then she needs to compromise on her rigidness as well or the relationship will simply fail. A good relationship is not about having to give up everything for another. It is about being able to accept or compromise on a lot of shit. Unfortunately I'm seeing a lot of "all about me" from several people in this and the other thread. Compromise people, compromise.

Tremolo said she would be willing to compromise with porn as long as it wasn't thrown in her face. You're not compromising if you demand women hear about your porn habits even if they aren't comfortable with it. You're just using the language of compromise to deliver an ultimatum.

That's okay...I also hope my comment doesn't sound patronising, but from what I've found, most guys don't understand my feelings either! :p

As for the other forums I've been on, all I get from other women is either "Oh my god, me too" or "it's a guy thing, get over it". Naturally I over-think things so that doesn't help...

I'm not a big fan of vibrator's so I get where you and the other women are coming from. Does he ignore you or prefer porn sometimes? Usually insane jealousy of porn signifies some other problem in the relationship.