Let me start out by first saying that I am completely head over heels In Love with my Fiancé. I am Truly Blessed to know her, be in her life, and to be Loved in return by her. I adore her, she is my Best Friend a person who I count on, admire, and could not live without. She is funny, smart, caring, and quirky (which is one if not her most endearing quality). It’s her cute quirky personality that I look forward to being around after a bad day.
With that being said… I have an issue. I am no longer attracted to my Fiancé at all. We have been together for 3 plus years and our relationship is healthy in all ways except for physically. I actually have never been this happy in a relationship ever. I hate to sound cliché… but she completes me, I have the most fun when I’m with her and whenever we are apart I can’t wait to be reunited. I am a healthy young man and I am a very visual person, with an extremely high sex drive. As shallow as it may be I would love to be attracted to her. When I first met her she was very attractive but slightly on the skinny side… I have always been attracted to thicker women, but she had some curves and she has a beautiful face. I figured overtime she might put on a few more pounds and to be honest I looked forward to it but it was no big deal. As time went on she has gone from slightly on the skinny side to completely bony. She has lost about 25 to 30 pounds or more… probably more, which doesn’t sound like a lot but since she was small to begin with she looks unhealthy and not sexy at all. I’ve tried to delicately tell her how I feel without putting pressure on her, but she continues to just gets smaller and smaller. It’s uncomfortable to hold her, her bones poke me and it’s hard to find a soft place on her, so physical contact has slowly come to a halt. Needless to say I am never turned on by her and I feel bad when she makes a move and I have to act oblivious, tired, or disinterested.
Cheating disgust me and has never been an option, besides for the physical we are happy, I really don’t know what to do above all else I care for her and worry about her health, she claims that she has not changed but my friends and family have noticed, and I avoid any questions from them about this situation as to not embarrass my Fiancé, any advice is welcome.