Nope but my ex slept with one. He told me on the first date. He was single for 6 months and not the type of guy to go and pick up just anyone so he paid to have sex with a girl. Did I think any less of him? Not at all. In fact I appreciated his upfront honesty and this honesty set the tone for the rest of our relationship. I knew I could trust him to tell me anything. I'd much rather that than have him feel he had to keep secrets.
I think Wakeup is spot on and age has a lot to do with this. At 19 if my BF had of told me that I would probably have a different opinion but as you mature things like this aren't the big deal they once were. Most people realise there is much more to worry about in life and aren't so selfish and narrow in their views.
Some people are drains and some are radiators... Keep clear of the drains and hug the radiators!
'People are never perfect but love can be. People waste time looking for the perfect lover rather than creating the perfect love' - Princess Leigh-Cheri from Still Life With Woodpecker.
I don't really understand why anyone would go to Amsterdam for any other reason than to hire a whore, so my assumption is that any male who has been there (and isn't visiting relatives) is going for that reason.
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?
'People are never perfect but love can be. People waste time looking for the perfect lover rather than creating the perfect love' - Princess Leigh-Cheri from Still Life With Woodpecker.
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?
'People are never perfect but love can be. People waste time looking for the perfect lover rather than creating the perfect love' - Princess Leigh-Cheri from Still Life With Woodpecker.
Hm, if it were me, i wouldnt honestly say anything. Its not a big deal to you, you were younger, on a lads holiday... It all depends on her whether she reacts badly to it. Its none of her busines really and has absolutely nothing to do with your relationship. I think to be truthful, if my boyfriend told me out of the blue he lied about this stuff and it came out that he had slept with a hooker, i would probably think differently about him. Even though i shouldnt, i know deep down i would and would probably leave.
Keep it to yourself and your mates and all should be good
You have all the weapons you need... Now fight!
If it's really going to eat you up then tell her but from the sounds of it be prepared for some kind of argument or her getting mad/upset. in a way you did lie but what is past is past. Just let her know the only thing that matters now is her and you and your guys' relationship together. you were young and dumb..something we all go through (not necessarily prostitutes but hey we have all done something haha) . If she can't get over it then she isn't worth it. if she loves you and really wants to spend the rest of her life with you...something that happened before her wouldn't hold her back. Good luck!
Even if it's regulated women are often mistreated. And yes, the sex industry is booming, there's a reason for it. I think it's sad that the sex industry is just about the only big industry in which women get paid more than men....and that is excluding pimps who "own" their prostitutes. I often ask men who think it's totally a-ok if they would be ok with their daughters selling their bodies, would you be ok with your wife or significant other stripping or having a past in which those were included? Would you feel entitled to know?
The ideas behind the sex industry and how disturbing it is really is sickening. But most people don't see that, they hearing moaning and dirty talk and see big O-faces and assumes it's all for good fun. Which is quite disturbing in itself.
as maidenminx said yes lots and lots of cannabis.....and i hear other drugs as well. lol
"Sometimes the best way to throw a punch is to take a step back"~Morgan freeman
Prostitution is the worlds oldest profession. A song title and a fact.
Some women really do enjoy being prostitutes. They find it empowering rather than demeaning. In the legal brothels near where I live the prostitutes have the control. They don't have to sleep with anyone they don't want to, they don't have to do anything they don't want to do and if a guy tries to push, he thrown out on his arse.
Jeez, if I was single and horny I'd almost consider being one on those terms. Better than taking chances with one night stands with creeps.
'People are never perfect but love can be. People waste time looking for the perfect lover rather than creating the perfect love' - Princess Leigh-Cheri from Still Life With Woodpecker.
if they would be ok with their daughters selling their bodies, would you be ok with your wife or significant other stripping or having a past in which those were included? Would you feel entitled to know?
If their daughters are of age what say do they have? And as for ex's being strippers or hookers in the past, well again, it is in the past. I don't understand this judgement of what people have done in their past. It should have no bearing on who they are now, unless the relationship is suffering because of it.
Do you want your BF to not have a past at all? What if he told you he used to be addicted to crack and had slept with over 100 women but he was now a changed man and was a loving, devoted boyfriend who you absolutely loved prior to finding out such info. Would you dump him at the drop of a hat coz of his past?
Some people are drains and some are radiators... Keep clear of the drains and hug the radiators!
Bullshit, Minx. Seriously, if any of those women were qualified to do anything else, most of them would.
Sorry, but would you really say its okay if your daughter said "Mom, when I grow up, should be become a doctor or a prostitute?"
I can only assume that most of you have never been to a 3rd world country and seen how prostitutes 'live'. Excepting Bo, it seems.
bout 80% of women in prostitution have been the victim of a rape. It's hard to talk about this because..the experience of prostitution is just like rape. Prostitutes are raped, on the average, eight to ten times per year. They are the most raped class of women in the history of our planet.
Prostitution is an act of violence against women which is intrinsically traumatizing. In a study of 475 people in prostitution (including women, men, and the transgendered) from five countries (South Africa, Thailand, Turkey, USA, and Zambia):
62% reported having been raped in prostitution.
73% reported having experienced physical assault in prostitution.
72% were currently or formerly homeless.
92% stated that they wanted to escape prostitution immediately.
(Melissa Farley, Isin Baral, Merab Kiremire, Ufuk Sezgin, "Prostitution in Five Countries: Violence and Posttraumatic Stress Disorder" (1998) Feminism & Psychology 8 (4): 405-426
Oh, and in case you think this is only in 3rd world countries:
A Canadian Report on Prostitution and Pornography concluded that girls and women in prostitution have a mortality rate 40 times higher than the national average. ( Special Committee on Pornography and Prostitution, 1985, Pornography and Prostitution in Canada 350.
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