Here is a brief paragraph of my situation. I want to see this in a guy's point of view.
My ex and I broke up on Sept. 01, 2011 after a year relationship. We had a huge fight during a trip right before (this is our first huge fight, we were basically ignoring each other during the trip). When we got back on Sept. 1st, he said it obviously does not work out. I tried to explain and he realized that he did not give me much attention recently. And the relationship with me was not his top priority. Then he said sorry and left.
We have not contacted each other in any way since then.
But right after we broke up, on Sept. 02, he signed up on Match.com and other online dating sites. I was very angry he moved on so I signed up those sites too. I did not contact him or look at this profile.
He is also holding on my cat and some other important stuff for me at his place. I have no idea when he is going to contact me. His apartment does not allow to have cat. I miss my cat very much but I do not want to talk to him to seem needy, which I know it will make things worse.
Looking back and think about this relationship. What I realized is that I made mistake in the relationship as well. I was trying to hard and nagging a lot in the last few months. Other than that, our relationship is quite compatible in all other aspects. We have similar interested and we enjoy similar things and have similar life goals. Therefore, I would like to give this a second chance.
Please help me, what can I do to get my cat back but also not seem to desperate.
I do not understand why he keeps my cat for so long since his apartment does not allow cats. I do not know what he is doing with my cat now. And obviously he has been looking for new women like crazy. What if he finds someone else soon? What should I say if he asks me to pick up my cat because he has moved on?
I am so upset about myself now, that is why I need your help to not make mistakes again.
Thank you very much.