Asking a girl if she has any interest?

[george88]

met a girl on a dating site. we chatted for about a month and then we met. we had a great time and planned on meeting up again. we also said we would see how it goes face to face some more before we jump into dating. well now its been a few weeks and i'm not sure if she really is interested. we have continued talking but we haven't met up yet.

i did ask her to go to an apple orchard and she said ooo that sounds pretty cool

then she changed her status from single to its complicated

i plan on aksing her to the apple orchard this week for next weekend. if she doesnt say yes, I'm planning on asking her if she's even really interetsed

would this be a good message to send to her to see if she has interest?

Hey, I'm just curious to see whats going on with us? I had fun with you when we met, and I wouldn't mind getting to know you better. If I seemed to come on strong I'm sorry, I was just nervous. So if you aren't interested in me, I'd appreciate it if you just told me

[devonbrown]

I think that sending that message to her might make her back away from you. I think she would read that as you coming on too strong if she hasn't already thought that.

Just be cool. Ask her to the orchard thing. If she says yes, great. If not, you probably know where you stand. No need to send her a clarification message.

Also, the "single to it's complicated" thing could be one of two things. It could be that she is considering more things with you. Or she has another guy with whom she is trying to figure things out. My guess is it is the second option. Sorry.

Good luck, and just remember that she isn't the only girl in the world.

[george88]

I think that sending that message to her might make her back away from you. I think she would read that as you coming on too strong if she hasn't already thought that.

Just be cool. Ask her to the orchard thing. If she says yes, great. If not, you probably know where you stand. No need to send her a clarification message.

Also, the "single to it's complicated" thing could be one of two things. It could be that she is considering more things with you. Or she has another guy with whom she is trying to figure things out. My guess is it is the second option. Sorry.

Good luck, and just remember that she isn't the only girl in the world.

It could be another guy but she changed it the night she said she would go to the apple orchard. Like 25 minutes after. So it could also mean me but I really don't know

[bulrush]

Send this message instead:
"Hey, I'm just curious to see whats going on with us? I had fun with you when we met, and I wouldn't mind getting to know you better."

Do not apologize for things you haven't done for sure. Try to be positive, don't think about breaking up, be confident.

"So if you aren't interested in me, I'd appreciate it if you just told me "

It's good to be direct but don't start assuming she's not interested so early. Get more experience with her.