Can confidence be intimidating?

[stopsarahpalin]

Hi,

So I'm 25, extremely confident and out going. I have my own business which is turning out more successful than I could have imagined, I meet people from all over the world and spend a lot of time abroad, in return work does take over a lot of my life. I have no problem chatting up a girl at a bar etc, I am one of the lucky people in the sense 'everything goes my way' however I have messed up a few business contracts but I always land on my feet normally better off for it. Reading that back I sound pretty shallow, but I most definitely am not.

The only problem is finding a 'keeper' I've had a long list of short term and failed relationships, and plenty of one night stand. I most enjoy girls who like to stay in and read books, who are not material in any sense, who are calm and intelligent, maybe even a little bit shy. I want to be able to come home and cook someone dinner, relax talk about our days and watch House.

So, I never really though about coming across as intimidating before, however a taxi driver told me I was last night, and thinking back people have said I come across intimidating previously. I am not a big muscle man for sure, just very assertive and confident. Can it be too much?

Quite a conundrum.

[Yet another guy]

Can confidence be intimidating?

I doubt that but over confident people may come across as self centered assholes.

[DoesntMatter]

I doubt that but over confident people may come across as self centered assholes.

Everyone is a self centered asshole, if you believe otherwise you are only fooling yourself

[surfhb]

I work with Alot of film producers in Hollywood so I can tell you there can definitely be a point of annoyance. Everything must be balanced

Being a self centered ass Hole and coming off as one are 2 different things.

And no, I don't agree. Coming from recovering a hole, there's still hope for you

[Yet another guy]

Everyone is a self centered asshole, if you believe otherwise you are only fooling yourself

Self centered assholes are of low taste, more interested in themselves than in me.

[MerryH]

People generally really like confidence. If your confidence intimidates people, then you're doing it wrong.

Do you brag about your successes? Are you loud and obnoxious? Are you the type that likes to one-up everyone? Do you blather on about your political views until everyone in the room wants to eat a bullet?

There's apparently something about you that doesn't jive with people. What do you think it is? And no, you can't say that it's the fault of everyone else that they can't handle your awesomeness, or whatever. I'm asking about you.

[stopsarahpalin]

I make decisions very quickly, do not 'um' and 'ahh' situations. I also know, without intention, I flirt with almost every women I meet, but this boils down to my work, where I always have to be the host, the entertainer.

Do I brag about success? No, but if I am taking someone out, for example somewhere that would normally be over budget for her, the night is on me. If I ask the question 'Where would you like to go' with the response 'Its up to you' then you will be coming somewhere I like, is that wrong?

Am I loud & obnoxious? Loud, obnoxius? I hope not

Do I like to one up everyone? Only in the sence I always want to excell

Do I talk about political views? No, as I know (from experience) it WILL make everyone want to eat a bullet

As I said before my work takes up a lot of my time, and this has been the reason for failed relationships before, however having just employed an assitant, I can cut my working week down to about 50 hours.