So I'm sure the regulars know most of my story. It has now taken a very unpredictable turn. A short recap: I've been seeing this girl for over a month, we hit it off great, alwyas have fun and started sleeping together rather quickly. Last week her most serious ex (from over a year ago, they were almost engaged) called her out of the blue and stirred up her emotions and she now realizes she isn't ready for a committed relationship. She finally told me this tonight and we talked about it. She said she doesn't want to lead me on and that she loves hanging out with me and always has fun. I do like her but I am not invested yet. I told her we don't need to make any committments and that I am fine with just hanging out and having fun. I told her if it develops it develops but if I meet someone before then we will have to stop hanging out. I also said that I don't sleep with multiple people and the same for her, if something comes up to tell me I won't be mad about it (ironically this ends up being an exclusive talk eh?). She said she agrees and that she doesn't sleep around either. So now the relationship is some amalgamation of exclusive romantic friends with benefits.
There are some things I am wondering from this point. I acknowledge this relationship for what it is. She is flat out not ready to commit and it isn't going to happen any time soon (if at all). However, I could see myself with this girl and would actually like it if that ended up working out. I also don't mind the alternative that we keep hanging out untill I find someone new... I am not going to take myself out of the field and wait/hope for something to come from this situation. That said, do friends (or whatever we are) with benefits ever turn into something more? Aside from time, is there anything I can do with her to shift things in that direction? I know she has feelings for me she just has too much emotional baggage to get into a real relationship right now. Any thoughts from anyone (from her point of view) who has been in this very strange situation before?