Originally Posted by
Melinda01
Small things happen, but they show pretty big things at the end of the day. Or is it just me overanalysing things??
When I got together with my boyfriend, we were just a couple of weeks together, it came up to my News Feed at Facebook that he commented at a girls photo where she had her bikini on and taken a picture of herself on the mirror becasue she is extremely fit and works out every day. He then commented as af he thought she was VERY hot...It showed up at his Wall that he commented. But he deleted the very next day, so that it wouldn't show up on his wall. I didn't say anything, though I said after some months. His reaction was that this was a meaningless comment. I let it be.
A month ago, something else happened that had to do with a girl, nothing really special, but he made it special and strange by not feeling comfortable talking about that girl just in case I would become mad and jealous. I told him later that when he is COOL and calmed, then I am also cool and calm. But when he is strange then it is natural that I also become strange...
So, I had deactivated my facebook account for 6 months. I decided to reactivate it yesterday night. I did it and as everyone else would do, I started checking out others profile, especially my boyfriend's. I saw that he had recently become friends with a girl and "liked" their new friendship on facebook. Fine. That's nothing. Today I told him that I'm back on facebook (since he had wanted me back all those months). After one hour, I checked his profile again (cause after so many months with absence from facebook, and on a Saturday, you have nothing to do, and it's easy to just stare there and check out things). He had just "unliked" his friendship with this girl.
Oooops?? That's what I thought. Why? Two reasons. Either he wants to hide something, or he has such a bad picture om my personality that he thinks that I'm a possesed, and paranoid person that would be mad at him if I saw that he "liked" it.
Since then we had a fight, and I tried a lot to tell him that I don't care about his female friends, but that I want him to be straight to me and be honest, and not hiding things, because he creates the drama himself when he acts as if I'm jealous. But the conclusion for him is that I'm paranoid, I'm spying on him, and that he's not on facebook anymore because it just doesn't work that we both are there because I'm paranoid.
I myself think that had he not deleted it I would be cool with it, because it would show that he would be fine with it as well.
I understand that most of the people laugh when they hear about "facebook problems" and they think that it is ridiculous. But, I think that everyone pretty much nowadays thinks of facebook very seriously and spends HOURS in front of it, forming the perfect profile of how the other people sees that person. It IS a second social life, only that this is not reality, one can form the facebook reality how they want. This is why I get so frustrated over something that is "facebook" related, cause I think that it still shows a lot about how a person think and what that person wants to show to their friends.
Please tell me your opinions on my reaction.Thanks!