I dont know what to do about us!!

**laurajane90** · 13-11-11, 01:09 AM

Hi im new to this but just need some advice
on what to do!! I been on/off with my ex now
for years because of trust and his aggressive
behaviour. At times he can be a great guy and
then other times he changes! We recently
started seeing each other again at weekends
it was fine for the first few weeks then I
started to see the old him coming back out
again and i got really upset and it sent
alarm bells ringing! I moved house a few
months ago because of him and he told me he
had changed and was different now and wanted
to see me. so we met up and it was cool so I
tried to make a go of it again. Now he wants
to start coming round my house (he doesnt
know where I live) and wants us to get back
together again and I would love to because I
still love him but im scared that it will all
start again with the aggression and the way
he just changes and ill regret letting him
back in. Plus the kids dont like him so thats
difficult also because they have seen me go
through alot with him but i dont wanna live
like this anymore and dont know what to do
about the situation its making me feel bad
and very stressed!! Im thinking this might be
different if we spend more time together
insted of just the odd weekend and ill be
able to trust him but im also thinking i
should just move on because I still have a
fear of him. Three weeks ago i went down to his city for the weekend and everything was great then the weekend after i told him to come over here for a change and i spent the day shopping for him,getting him a gift before he came over and was looking forward to seeing him but on the way down he was moaning that it was late and when he got here he was telling me that he could have been out with his mates and started going on about the past and he had me in tears after just 5 mins and since that night he has had a bad attitude with me. Keep hanging the phone up and just being disrespectfull and its made me angry and i have shouted at him and now he is saying im evil and i abuse him but i shout at him because of the way he is towards me. Its like he is horrible to me but when he sees or hears me upset his mood changes and he starts being nice and then when i feel better he will start feeling sad and say i have no respect for him and im nasty and then changes again please tell me what i should do about this situation x

**malteser** · 13-11-11, 01:16 AM

End it now. You have admitted that you are fearful of him and you've moved house because of him, this is never going to work and you will end up getting hurt.