Hi everyone! I need some help. I've nevr been very good at figuring out men,they are so confusing to me! I'll try to give as much detail as possible so you have the full story.
A couple weeks ago I met up with somebody whom I had been chatting to first over the internet,and then via texting for about a month. The first meeting went very well,lots of laughing and joking,flirting,etc.and I felt that we had a lot of common ground with each other. The night ended with a nice hug and kiss at the end and him asking if he will be seeing me again. Actually he had brought that up a couple of times during the evening,so I took it as a good sign since it seemed like he was concerned with us getting together again. And on the way home he texted to thank me for coming out and said he hoped I wasn't dissapointed. I took these things to be good signs,and I think at the time they were.
We had some plans for a few days later,and we had to kind of change things when they changed his schedule at work. He had worked 12 hours,but still wanted to do SOMETHING when he was done working,and we ended up just watching movies. It was a nice night from my viewpoint,very relaxing and comfortable. He wasn't trying to jump all over me either,I think it was atleast 4 hours of watching movies before we even got cuddly. But things did happen eventualy and we had sex,only after a very long time of just cuddling,touching each others face,neck,back with clothes on...just exploring I guess you could say. All in all I know it's not the best idea in the world to have sex with somebody you don't know that well,but I felt that there was a spark there,just an understanding between us that I can't explain really.
The next day I was at work and he texted to let me know that he was glad I came to see him the previous night. Everything seemed fine and normal with our conversations,so I assumed that we didn't screw things up by having sex too soon. But the way he works,is he is in my state for so many weeks and then in his home state for a couple weeks. A cople days after this happened he was scheduled to leave,which I knew. I was hoping he might ask to see me again before he left,but knew that might be unrealistic because he was working 16 hours those days. I was ok with that. But then he started being less chatty,and not being flirtatious and making jokes,etc. like we had the entire time we had been talking. Our conversations through text dwindled down to maybe a couple texts between the two of us before ending the conversation. I've kept my conversations just as they always have been,but he seems like he is not interested. I try to engage him and get him talking,but he just does not seem the same.
So I asked him if he lost interest since that night. He said no and that he's sorry he hasn't been as talkative with work and everything. And said that he is up front. I didn't bring it to his attention that I thought he was being less talkative,so I guess he knew in his mind that he was being that way. He is back home right now,so I can't seem him for a couple of weeks. But the lack of meaningful conversation has continued for the last few days. Last night was the first time he has ever stopped texting back in the middle of a conversation. Usually one of us will just stop texting after an lol,or something neutral and thats the end of the texting for awhile. But not in the middle of a conversation,a conversation that only consisted of 2 texts from each of us. He is defintely acting differently,and it's not because of work and stuff. He is off work since he's back home now,so since he's there now,work can not be a reason anymore. And when he was home last time we still texted regularly. So something is up. Would you take it that he has no interest,eventhough he was given a chance to tell me if that was the case? Is this how most men would act when they have lost interest in seeing somebody in the early stages? I hate when men drag you along,and that is why I asked him in the first place,because I would rather know straight out and not waste his time or mine. If I screwed up by having sex that's fine,but I just want some honesty from the guy.