I have had an emotional affair with one man for three months now. I have known him for two years. He contacted me in Facebook and all started from there. We had this incredible chemistry and I felt that I could speak with him about anything. He said he has been interested in me in the first day we met couple years ago.
The problem is that we are both in a relationship with other people. I’m unhappy with mine relationship for a very long time. My crush has a long distance relationship with some girl but he said it’s not anything serious.
Anyhow we live in the different cities and after 2 months of chatting with him every day for hours and hours and planning to be together we finally met at his town. This was two weeks ago.
But everything started to go wrong from the day 3 when his non serious girlfriend came in town. I did ask him to leave her so we could be together. Actually we had a terrible fight about it. He thinks I’m not fair because I have a partner too. I think if he was honest to me in the beginning and his relationship wasn’t anything serious so what is the problem? Why can’t he dump a girl who he is not serious with? She stays with him when she is in town which makes me think that he lied about how serious they are. He seems to be committed to her. I’m very upset about that because I wouldn’t have made any plans for us if I have known that he has a serious girlfriend. He made me think that it wasn’t anything serious.
Now he says he needs time. He asked me to be patient that we will be together. And the only way our relationship could work is that we both stop seeing other people and only see each other.
So my question is. Have I been dumped? Is he only playing with me? Did he change his mind when he saw me? He is attracted to me physically for sure because we have met many times over the couple years but perhaps he was disappointed for the chemistry? Where does he need time? Time to sleep with this other woman because I refused to sleep with him or what? I said I only get physical in a relationship. We did kiss though.
We were supposed to speak all this but he was always busy and now I left town already. I never told him that I left town. I was too upset with him. Now I haven’t answered his messages anymore and I deleted him from my Facebook because I feel that he was dishonest about his relationship status and he probably just tried to use me for sex when his girl was out of town. I’m just getting in the mood that I don’t believe anything he says anymore so that’s why it’s better to cool down a little bit.
P.S. By the way please give me advice only for this situation with this new man. I don’t need a relationship advice with my boyfriend. I know already that I have to finish my relationship with him especially what happened with this guy in "Facebook". He deserves a woman who is more committed to him.