Awful decision- please help

[bcgirl]

There are two types of people....those that would be okay with their loved ones banging other people....and those that would not be okay. If you two were utterly in love and see a future with each other and marriage etc....then whats a year and a half of long distance in the long run of it all?? A year and a half is really nothing...you two will be communicating via emails, phone etc. You will be visiting once in a while etc. It's not like he is going to the boonies in the middle of nowhere with no access to internet, phone and you won't know his whereabouts for a couple years. Tons of people go without sex, intimate contact, dating for more years than a year and a half. But he is thinking with his penis and that he wouldn't like the idea of going for months on end without intimacy and sex. There are other ways....you two can skype and masterbate for each other. He isn't thinking long term in how the aftermath of banging another girl would ruin your relationship....because it would. You aren't the type of girl who can just forgive and forget. I know i wouldnt.

[vashti]

You all are crazy. If he is going off to study for 18 months, he is young, and it would be ridiculous for him to pretend that things could continue as they are. I think he has been about as kind as he can be about not wanting to hurt anyone while maintaining some sense of reality. Honestly, he should just break up with this girl to save the melodrama.

[IndiReloaded]

In my case, our separation led to our engagement. But he wasn't asking to see other people, the way your guy is. You need to let him go, its clear he doesn't want you enough to forego others. There's nothing wrong with that attitude, or you, btw. Just that you aren't right and/or ready for each other as a longterm relationship.

Don't cling to him. There is nothing more unattractive than desperation.