Hey.
I'll try keep this as short as possible.
Last 1 week i've been driving myself crazy at thoughts, thoughts i'm having when i go to sleep, thoughts i have all day at work, and obviously right now, thoughts that make me question my relationship at times, heres why..
I was close with my girlfriend 4 years ago now, we never got too close though, no sex, or anything like that involved.
Anyway, we split, she went off with the new guy who she was friends with and close too when i was seeing her, and i found a new girl a few months after that, but never really properly moved on.
Nearly 2 years on, she got dumped by this guy cause he started seeing someone else so consequently ended it with her, and my partner too, finished with me looking for something else in her life.
So, im back with her now, have been for 5ish months, but i've been getting thoughts and feelings that she's maybe not over her EX.
She does talk about him at times, but not as such as saying "oh i used to have so much fun doing this with him" or "i used to love going there with him" but it's more things she says like, "i remember this film i went to watch it with 'him'" or, "yeah when i bought my car i went with 'him' and he helped me pick". etc. Maybe it's normal to just casually enter your EX into conversation? is it? I don't ever mention mine, purely on the fact i don't have any interest in hearing about hers, i guess it even makes me a little jealous?
I have confronted her twice about her EX and how she kind of shrugged me off for him back in the day, i have said it bothers me, but she ends up saying she can't believe i'd think that of her and becomes upset by it, and in a bad mood with me.
I have no other evidence for her not being over her EX other than the fact she just mentions him abit. (He dumped her nearly 2 years ago now!)
So do i have to right to believe she's not over him? or am i being insecure and ridiculous and unfair on her?
Secondly, the sex, we have sex reguarly, it's always been like this, but more lately, she only seems to enjoy the fist 1/2 minutes of sex, after that it's just me doing my own thing whilst she lays there in silence, as if she's so bored, haven't talked to her about it, and my 2 previous sexual partners havent had any complaints and seemed like they were enjoying it much more, so i'd like to think its not me, but maybe it is? Also, out sex routine is the same everytime.
What does it sound like the problem may be here??