Need some friendly advice!

[igor7]

Hello all,
Here is my story: I know this girl since 2006. We live in the same city. The moment I saw her profile on the net, I felt something for her. I wanted to approach and talk with her but she was either in a rush to catch a bus or class or she was with 4-5 friends of her so It wasn't a good idea. So I decided to contact her via email. I wrote an email to her (in a very polite and clear language). I wrote to her that I am interested in meeting her, .etc. But she didn't reply for like 10 days. I had also a few photos of her which I got from her profile. As she didn't reply, I send another email with the photos (which I think maybe was a bad idea) and explained to her that I am not just hitting on her and I am a serious person and not playing with someone's feelings. This time I found that she is looking for help how to get rid of a stalker (which was obviously me )...Then I wrote an apology email to her. She replied this time saying that It was Ok and she asked me not to follow her anywhere (literally told me to forget her)....Now it has been almost 6 years, I still have strong feelings for her, I never forgot her actually (she is on my mind day and night), I haven't seen a girl like her (personality wise) only by judging what i have in my hand which are her photos, the way she dresses, she poses all show a descent, serious, natural girl (unlike other girls nowadays!!)....I am thinking about contacting her again, naturally I am excited about it, I have been thinking what to write this time but again I would like to hear from others to see what they have to say...

Thanks in advance and sorry for the long post!

Regards,

Igor7

[gwen123789]

Honestly, you need to let this go.
You were incredibly forward, and it weirded her out.
i mean...why would you send her pictures of her off of her own profile?
she's seen them....i see no point in that.
but anywho.....
now it's been 6 years.
I can tell you that she doesn't think of you all the time.
She has moved on just fine with her life.
Do not contact her.
I know it sucks when you have strong feelings for someone and they don't feel the same way back but you don't even know her.
at all.
this is all lust...taken to the extreme.
Just let her live her life.
and you live yours.
find someone else and take things slow.
let things develop naturally.
dont try and be so pushy...as you can see it only weirds girls out.
not trying to be mean or anything.
i just think you reallllyyyyyyyyyy need to let this go.

[igor7]

Thank you gwen for your reply!
Wow! I didn't expect a fast reply to my post. Anyway, first of all, It was great to talk about this with someone. Last time I talked about this issue was with my 2 best friends a year ago, one of them told me to go after her again and she might give it a thought if she see I am serious. My other friend shared your opinion and told me to let it go. Let me add a quick note about myself, It is not in my character to act weird and problematic and all so I was really angry at myself when I found out she was scared because of me. I have the most respect of all for her. That's why i thought maybe if I can talk to her (if she agrees of course) and explain to her everything, this can make things work...

Other than that, I have to add that I had a difficult educational period at the university (in the past 5 years) and she was the source of hope, courage and energy for me during this time although she doesn't know it so i am thinking maybe if she finds out about all this, she might give it a thought but let me add that I am absolutely ready for whatever reply i get from her no matter positive or negative...Thank god I have my life which I am satisfied with currently and everything/everybody around me are just fine by all means...But was still thinking what if....
Anyway thanks again!

[gwen123789]

maybe you've just built her up to be this grand thing in your mind as an escspe from the difficult period you had?
you said that now you're satisfied with your life so just let that escape go.
you don't need it anymore.
and trust me....life has a funny way of working out.
if it's meant to be, it'll be.
there's no need to go back after 6 years and try to make it work with someone you don't even know.
but best of luck to you.