Originally Posted by
wonderingsoul
I know 2 men, both are great men, and I wonder who would you choose if you are in my position.
The first one I met is a great career driven man. He was the honor student, always the top of the state. Now is a young but successful surgeon, saving lives and working from before dawn to well after dusk. He is well respect, very rich, and most importantly a really humble and social person. He wasn't perfect though, a little narcissistic, very materialistic, he would easily put work before his girlfriend, possible family. When I first met him, sparks was flying, chemistry was bubbling, but well and behold, I found out he has a long time girlfriend. He tells me his relationship with his girlfriend had been rocky, but I am not a person who likes to reck relationship, so I backed off and we remained friends.
The second one I met is more of a mere human. Also a honor student, but this time an engineer stuck in a job that he hates and is leading him no where. However, he is kind, considerate and most caring person I have ever met in my life. I finally accepted him as my boyfriend after a long year of dilemma, and the longer I know him, the more sweeter and kinder he becomes. We get along and even if we fight, things gets solved very quickly. He's not someone my parents would accept secondary to his ethnic background or his career, but I have hidden him from my parents, and my relationship have been smooth sailing for over 1 year. He is also ambitious but he lacks the confidence and is restricted by his geographic residence to further his career. He is one who would value his family over career, and wants to work hard because of family.
After being stable with him for a year, the first man call me. He tells me he's finally broken up with his girlfriend and asked me out.
What would you have done if you are in my situation? This story happend half a year ago now and I had already my decision. But I wander if it had been the right one, and what would most people have chosen in my situation.