Hi,
I have a fella who is crazy for me. I am very crazy for him too. He is everything I am looking for in a mate except for one thing. The sex is less than satisfying for me. He is happy with things, but I am not and I don't know how to tell him what to do without screwing things up. Basically, I want him to stop focussing on my orgasm. It will happen as it happens and it isn't his responsibility in my opinion. This I have been able to tell him. no problem. The other issue is that when he penetrates me and is pumping (sorry for the graphic description ...I don' t know how else to say it) he is too fast and too hard for my liking. I cannot orgasm that way. I need it gentle and slow. I have tried getting on top and being in control but when I do, he loses his erection. He is also quite small compared to my ex, but I think I can adjust to that if he could just move in a way that pleases me. Please give me some advice how I can express this to him as I want to be with him, but if the sex isn't satisfying I won't last.