This is my first post on a site like this, so I'm looking forward to getting some objective thoughts about this...thanks in advance!
I am good friends with a man I work with at school--we get along very well, are very close, flirt back and forth, and I feel like we should be more than friends. He is seeing someone else right now and has been since January of this year. We've never gone out together, have never crossed over any line, and he is really an honorable and loyal guy. He knows how I feel about him, and based on the conversations we've had, I really think he feels something more than platonic for me too. We have also talked about his relationship he is currently in, and based on what he has said, I don't feel like their relationship will last much longer. He calls me every 2 or 3 days, and we talk for long periods of time...sometimes for as long as an hour or more. We also text occasionally. I had stopped initiating contact because I wanted to see if he would keep it up after we were out of work for the summer...kind of to gauge his interest I guess...he now calls me, like I said every 2-3 days. He makes comments like "when we..." and "someday..." so it feels like we could be getting closer to getting together.
I'm a 40 year old divorced woman who has never felt this confused before...and in many ways, I feel very silly.
Here is what I want to know...
1. Do guys call women they have just platonic feelings for this often...how about when they're seeing someone else already?
2. How do I get him to s**t or get off the pot as far as him and I?
3. From a guy's perspective, what's he thinking and where is he at?
Thanks!!