Age old case of losing the spark...

[Swing]

Hi everyone,

My ex of 1 day and I had been going out for nearly 11 months, and it had been the most fun and interesting relationship of my life. She is beyond outgoing, full of energy, full of interest in my life and goals, amazing personality, and I could go on. Since practically the first month, we've been living together and do pretty much everything together. She's comfortable with the fact that I need some alone or friend time, and she's the same. I can have female friends, she can have guy friends, and there's absolute trust between us. She's someone I'm never bored around, and 100% comfortable with, which is an amazing thing to have in a relationship. We can literally talk about anything in the world without a worry. We did quite a few activities and outtings on a regular basis as well.
Things haven't been so colourful the past few months though. Due to a student strike, she ended up having nothing to do this entire past semester (though she worked full time) while I was in one of the hardest programs at my university, and was going for top grades. She had rented an apartment to attend her university about an hour and a half away, and she was working full time thoughout the week at a job she hated (not one who likes to be sitting down for any length of time) and would come back to visit me on weekends. This worked out great, since I could do homework or see friends during the week, then we'd have the weekend together.
However, when exam season started, she had finished her job and was staying at my place, and as I was studying nearly all the time, I had almost no time to spare with her for those 2-3weeks. I would study with her close by, and she'd try her best to be patient (and she would be), but as one can imagine, doing absolutely nothing while your partner is immersed in books all day isn't a fun time. She would complain that our sex life was suffering, and it was, as I was often too tired or stressed to want to get anything started (though I know it's one of the best ways to destress...). That was taxing on her, no doubt about it. But when school and med school interviews were over, we had a good solid month of good times and things were going smoothly (this was in May). But something happened in June, and we've talked about it, and neither of us can place what it is. At the beginning of the month, we both worked a lot, and saw friends fairly often, but at the end of the day when we went to bed, we'd just watch an episode of something and pass out. Making out, random kisses, affectionate touches, and sex were all less frequent, and less exciting when any of them did happen. Mid june, I brought up that it was kinda of a problem that we hadn't had much sex recently and we were feeling more and more distant, and agreed to make efforts to change that. So we continued until 2 days ago, when we both mutually agreed, crying, that for some reason, our romance was gone. It has nothing to do with looks; we both still find eachother very attractive. I still love her, and it feels empty not having her, and she feels exactly the same way, but all we've decided as of yet is that we're more best friends than anything and we each want more than that out of a relationship. She moved her stuff out that same day, and we've texted eachother several times asking how eachother's doing, but all that's been agreed upon is that we don't know what went wrong, and we don't know if it's something we can or should try to fix. She'll be going to university 1.5h away (which is manageable), and I'll be in medschool next year, so we won't have much time for eachother anyway, but if we had that spark still, I think that it wouldn't really matter. I know a lot of good looking, nice girls, and I know everyone says this, but my ex is really one of a kind, and I don't really want to date any one else because no one I know is more fun to be with than this girl.
We've decided that maybe it'd be best to take a few days apart, then maybe start hanging out again just as friends and see what happens.

Any ideas, thoughts? Is this something that can be turned around, possibly though a new beginning? All feelings between us are 100% mutual, and we just don't know if it'd be best to end it like this without any huge fights or blame or if we should try to be friends or how soon we should try...
Anyway, and constructive input would be very appreciated. Thanks a lot for reading.

[smackie9]

The honeymoon phase has ended (last 6 months to a year mostly). This is the "spark" or obsession stage of relationships, but things do naturally do slow down and head into a comfort zone. What you should be left with is deep love for each other.....so that "spark" or hot passion doesn't come back. That feeling is only temporary. If things have really fallen flat and you have ran out of things to be excited about, that means you both don't have lives outside the relationship or enough in common. No one is bringing in new interests to the relationship...boredom which I know is every guy's fear in a long term relationship, sets in.

It's time to spend time apart, but also do things together that are outside your comfort zone. That is all you can really do at this point. If it doesn't work, then it's time to move on.