Here's my dilemma. Let me know what you think about it.
I have been messaging a guy who is a friend of a friend every day for 3 months. He lives a long distance. One month into our flirty messaging, he said he really wanted me to come and visit him. We have a mind connection as well as sexual attraction. I told him it would be 6 months before I could visit. This for several reasons: first it gives me time to save up the travel costs and second, to allow me to lose some weight and third to take some time off work. The photo on my profile was when I was slimmer as my weight goes up and down. We continue to message to each other every day. Because I don't like to play games, I am honest with my feelings and probably about from a month onwards our feelings got deeper and we both said we love each other, although that could have been something we both said in the heat of the moment as in the beginning I didn't really take him seriously as he was the one who started messaging me first. I message him every day I would say 2-3 times a day saying he's wonderful, funny etc (this is true) he messages back short messages with kisses etc. My messages to him are highly flattering to him (it's genuine, I can't help myself, there's a lot of chemistry)
I'm wondering how long this can go on for as naturally I'm quite an intense person, although I'm also very laid back - I'm not really looking for a relationship and I get a lot of men chasing me offline. I particularly like this guy. In reality, I don't think I can visit him until next June and I'm quite happy writing these daily chats to him.
The other thing is that at the moment he is getting random sex from a friend with benefits he doesn't particularly like, I'm quite happy with this arrangement as he doesn't particularly like her although the girl likes him more than he likes her. They've known each other for years. I don't want to visit him like before next June as I have study and work commitments and I need to save the money up and lose some weight.
Do you think he'll get bored with this? My messages to him at some point will start to get repetitive - just how many times can you compliment a guy? lol From the beginning he knew I wouldn't be able to visit for 6 months, but now it looks like 10 months. It doesn't bother me he has sex with this other girl because we have a long distance relationship and also I need to be slim before I sleep with him.
So we're having virtual sex ... how long can this go on before he gets bored with the fact I'm not prepared to see him for real for 9 months?
Any advice gratefully received! Thanks :-)